AS and living on your own

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I left home last August at the age of 28. It was difficult for the first 2 or 3 months to get used to looking after myself and my space without help, and being by myself almost all the time. I still feel stressed out about being alone so much sometimes, but I like living on my own too much to give it up. I have a cat, and he helps very much. I visit my parents about once a week, and they visit me about the same. They live a half an hour away, so not really close but not too far either. I wasn't ready to live on my own before I finally did move out, and I'm glad I stayed at home until I was ready.

Even when I'll have a job (if I will) I don't think I'll move out.
My parents are ok with that, also.

I currently live in a shared student house. I prefer it to living at home, because there no one else does any chores. Even though living with other people can be hard - they don't clean things properly and sometimes use your stuff, or make a lot of noise - I don't think I could live entirely on my own, because I have problems remembering important things like bills and food, and get too caught up in my interests unless someone knocks me back into the real world.

I am hoping to move in with my sister and possibly another friend once I finish uni, although my mom has always said that once her partner dies she would like to live with me, but whether this is for herself or to help me I'm not sure.

I moved out of my parents' house at age 25 last year and am sharing an apartment with one person. He and I are both busy grad students and we haven't had lots of time to clean the whole apartment. We do this when we've got free time. Since he's a cool, easy-going person, we haven't had any quarrels together at all.

I was very eager to move out of my parents' house for college, but the college housing was SO expensive that my parents were too reluctant to pay for it. Secondly, I didn't have to money to pay for the housing. I wanted to live on-campus in college so that I could be near people and more easily socially connect to people.

Actually, why is it so important to be independent? I guess it´s again just because society says so.

I moved out at 21. I enjoyed it at first, but it became lonely a lot of the time. I otherwise had no problems adjusting, I paid all my own bills and all that pretty well.

I live in a group home, but I am practically independent. The support from the group home staff is about 30 minutes a week. That is very light support. But the total work that the staff has includes more thing than directly supporting me. They must write reports, they have phone calles with my parents (with my permission), I am sometimes discussed from time to time. If you add all this, the total support and overhead is 90 minutes a week.

I still live at home at 24 (about to be 25). I can't stand change or the thoughts of leaving my home. I've lived here almost all of my life and the idea of moving gives me nightmares.

I "moved out" at 18. I put that in quotes, because it wasn't really a decision, just something I had to do, since I was leaving foster care. Moved in with a roommate. Moved around a few times, always with some kind of roommate. Wound up homeless for a while, and didn't like that much. Found work, found my own apartment, and lived on my own for a little while, which I liked. I was never really lonely; it was nice, and different, to be on my own. But, then, met my now-husband, started a family, and, obviously, am with them now, always in our own apartment (although have switched apartments a few times.) It would drive me absolutely up the wall to live in someone else's house. I like things to be MINE, to be able to change the thermostat 10 times a day if I want to, open the windows, organize the dishes, etc. I could never cope if I lived somewhere where I didn't make the rules.

Joined the Air Force at 22.

Been on my own ever since.

Of course, my mother will be moving in with me soon. Can't wait.

I went away to college at 21 (after spending 2 years going to LSUS) down to LSU, Baton Rouge. Wanted to, but also my new stepfather was the very definition of the word "Jerk". But that is another story?
The first semester, I had some depression issues, homesickness ( I was also highly in love, but it was unrequited at the time). Actually that first year was brutal, but the second year was great. Most of my experiences I woould not trade, it was a real eye-opener. I had intermitent health problems, otherwise, ( I did sort of end up in a relationship with that girl in the end so that also made being away a bit more than just partying/studying, some lonely times).
Later, left home & lived in Florida on my own until my Mother begged me to come home some years later..

Sincerely,
Matthew

I moved out at 22. My stepdad was an a**hole who had zero understanding for me. To be fair, I wasn't diagnosed yet either.
Anyway, paying the bills and keeping my place clean is an almost impossible task.

18, when I started university. It was good to leave my parents, we were all quarreling at the time, all the time. I still think my parents were able to stay together thanks to my leaving. And I get on MUCH better with them now when we don't have to share a house.

I once moved back to them for a few months before moving to Germany. Weird things had happened at the flat I rented then, probably to do with the previous tenant, and I had no stable income at time. It was stressful, even though I was hardly ever at home. My mum, also liking her routine, was rather upset at me invading her kitchen to heat up soup at 10:30PM, that sort of thing. Eventually I got a job in Germany, and left again. Peace and quiet were restored.