Do others grow up too fast?

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I'm told often I need to grow up by my half brothers who are 10 and 12 years younger then I. I like a lot of little childrens programming, toys, room decor etc. becouse they make me feel good and not depressed like most things for adults, I also have no issues just doing what I want and if thats doing childish thing and acting like a child so be it, being socially right means nothing to me. I as a person in someways I have grown up alot, perhaps more so and far faster then most of my old classmates largely becouse of the way they and life treated me from a very young age.

I also felt like I was left behind by everyone else my age as I was growing up. I just about got away with it up until the transition to high school, but at that point all the other kids started trying to be grown-up, and I was completely baffled by it. Suddenly everyone started talking about pop music, dating and films aimed at adults while I was still into Disney, kids' games and playing in the park. I couldn't imagine myself doing any of those things. I remember being in a group of kids and saying I didn't want to grow up, and they all looked at me like I was an alien - they were all, "what are you talking about? Everyone wants to grow up."

Also, I agree with Roy above that most media for adults is depressing! It may be the emotional sensitivity that often goes with autism, but one of the reasons I don't watch TV is because I can't stand seeing the emotional drama, violence, crime, disasters etc. which appear to be the standard for adult entertainment in movies and TV. It just leaves me feeling negative. If I watch anything, it's "feelgood" lighthearted fantasy or animation.

My interests have "matured" a bit as I got older, but I'm now in my 30s and still feel like I did when I was 12 - like don't understand "adults"!

I am somewhere in the middle right now (chronological age: 34). My favorite "adult show" is LAW AND ORDER: SVU (also watched the others in the franchise when they were still on, especially CRIMINAL INTENT). I know what you mean about them being "depressing", but when the writing and characterization are good, that makes up for it, at least for me (just my own viewpoint here). That's about it, though. Reality shows drive me nuts--how the heck those are considered to be for "adults" is beyond me. On SURVIVOR, all they do is act VERY childishly--like high school backstabbing all over again...in an exotic setting. Please.

I don't think I will ever feel like a "real" grown-up, and I'm not sure I really want to. It's far too easy to fall into despair--and, again, that's what's "supposed" to happen, and I hate that notion. Why? Why is society so hung up on "supposed to's"? What is everyone so afraid of? There is a world of difference between "childish" and "childlike"--it's the latter that most of us are talking about, and many so-called "normal" people can't (or won't) see that.

While categorization is often a hallmark of my particular flavor of AS, that is not the case when it comes to what is "for kids" and "for adults." I like what I like, and don't care where it supposedly belongs.

Speaking of such things, ever see some of the commercials that are supposedly aimed at adults, especially those for insurance (for some reason)? Progressive's Flo and some of those State Farm ads--come on.