Would your life be complete without other aspies?

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My life is for the most without aspies and it is incomplete, but it wouldn't be any more complete if they were around, I think.

Neither will I, since my partner and most of my friends are aspies

No.

Beat me to the punchline!

Am in my Fifties and basically-never meet a fellow aspie until a few years ago.

Actually there have been a few individuals on the fringes of my life over the decades whom ive suspected were aspies, and one guy I worked with who turned out to be an officially dxd aspie.

But i never heard of aspergers until a few years ago. Was dx'd a year ago, or so. And less the two years ago I started going to the local town support group for adult aspeis and auties. The meetings of that group were the first time I ever meet large numbers of fellow spectrumites.

So ive done without fellow aspies all of my life.

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My sister is on the spectrum, my only two close friends in real life are Aspies, and I adore the logical manor in which many of us think, so no, my life certainly wouldn't be complete without other Aspies/Autistics.

In answer to the title: yes, probably. I have said before that I generally find other autistic people harder to get on with than most NTs.

In answer to the question in the OP: I am no more inclined to "leave" my autistic friends than any of my other friends.

I didn't need them before and I don't need them now. I think you need you're own voice of wisdom in order to follow onto something of a guideline or necessary component in which to fulfil a basic life strategy.
What im trying to get at is that when its bad enough not having the right support in which to build a solid foundation on from the beginning and when you are unsure about things of a personal nature and when others may find it hard to pick up on every word you say from your body language and find you volatile for just thinking what you like and not saying a word if that's your preferred action plan. I don't have a reason to think the way I do, its just the way it is and the way I am has been no fault or bearing on anyone else.
Of course we all want reasons to justify our own opinions, but when that opinion for believing it becomes invalid then others actions shouldn't have a consequence for the way we feel 50 or 65% of the time.

Well, my only friend right now is a girl I met at an ASD support group who also has ASD and part of my daily routine is going on this site. Therefore not having other apsies in my life (this site and one other aspie girl in person) would diminish my quality of life. If you had asked me two years ago I wouldn't have had any other aspies in my life in person (just this site) so it wouldn't have had as much of an impact.

Yes, I had a stable lifestyle even before I joined this forum.

Definitely NO

Do you mean if I were the only aspie in the world, or if I just didn't know any others? If the former, I'd probably feel like a freak who didn't belong in society, but if the latter, that's pretty much how I'm living right now; the only other aspies I even communicate with are you guys, and I have only ever met another aspie in person one time for maybe an hour. It can get frustrating sometimes, but that's when I know I can come on here and find people who know what life for us is like.

This is how I feel; I find great comfort in the way we on the AS think (logically and rationally). I have NEVER had someone on the spectrum tell me I "over think things", "pay too much attention to details"; expect me to say or do whatever just to fit in with majority or the perceived alpha person.

Yes, I have not met another like me other than on the net.

I suspect in RL we would get on our nerves anyway....

I've met quite a few Aspies in RL (some not public about their DX). Statistically, you'll be annoyed by some people, Aspie, NT, Dragonlords, etc.

I would pay quite a bit to be able to go to an Aspie vacation spot every so often.

I have family members who are Aspies, relatives on my dad's side, and my daughter is also an Aspie. I've wondered if having the personality quirks known factors in a family makes it easier for Aspies. When growing up, I took comfort in knowing I was so much like my dad's sister.

Briarsprout wrote:



Agen Palpatine wrote...in response to my earlier post...



"I've met quite a few Aspies in RL (some not public about their DX). Statistically, you'll be annoyed by some people, Aspie, NT, Dragonlords, etc.

I would pay quite a bit to be able to go to an Aspie vacation spot every so often."


I would pay quite a bit to be able to go to an Aspie vacation spot every so often.[/quote]

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Briarsprout responds...


See you get on my nerves...Lol

But seriously, we are pretty rare. Learning Disabilities, Attention Deficit, Speech Impairments or Retardation is more common in spite what Autism speaks and calls it an “epidemic.” At most I might have met three possible people but I was not close to them. As a child I met two other children in special Ed with full "classic" autism. From my experience it was pretty rare out of the 1000s of people met.
Further, I met many people with other disabilities and have been part of the “disabled” community most of my life ie through meet up groups or college Etc.

http://nces.ed.gov/fastfacts/display.asp?id=64

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