Can you initiate things at all?

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30 May 2013, 9:37 am

Just timetable it secretly with a very long-range pattern and pretend it's spontaneous. I do this a lot with social things such as arranging to meet friends.

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30 May 2013, 11:04 am

neilson_wheels wrote:

Sorry, still got nothing on this one.

All I can say is that sounds just like me, do you discuss Aspergers with your partner?

She knows that I believe that I have AS, but I always get the feeling she doesn't fully believe it. Although, she will occasionally respond to something I say or do as "that's because you're autistic," so there's that.

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30 May 2013, 11:33 am

Again I know exactly this situation. I have been sure I'm on this part of the spectrum for 3 or 4 years, I'm 43 now. I find it really hard to even bring the subject of AS up, partly because I still can not identify how I feel about it.

I hope you get some more positive replies, I will be watching with anticipation.

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30 May 2013, 11:38 am

I don't know what ''initiate'' means, although it sounds quite a good word to use when trying to explain to someone how socially awkward I am without using the same basic words that eventually lose all meaning.

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30 May 2013, 4:07 pm

Triple__B wrote:

I have never seemed to be able to initiate anything.
I don't initiate conversation
I don't initiate sex
I don't initiate friendships
I don't initiate interactions ( sometimes ill even go out of my way to not cross paths with someone)
On and on and on.

Can others here initiate things in life at all?

You're talking about social interaction here... I guess?

I can initiate a conversation when I like the person and I know thay have the same interests I have.
I don't know about sex because I've never had it.
All my friendships were started by other people.
I initiate interactions only with people I know.

But for me it's not just a social thing.

I even have troubles initiating projects or other things.

Even when I have to study/do homework, it's had for me to get started, because I get distracted very easily and often I start doing other things, or I just can't get started because I mind can't focus on what I have to do.
Even when I take my ADHD med I still have this issue at times.
I can't get started quickly unless I am interested in what I am about to do.

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30 May 2013, 4:14 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:

I try, but much of the time it doesn't seem to work out.

That's me. I get it in my head to do something, then I chicken out or something. If I do try, it often gets shot down by someone. I had a good job lined up last year and I chickened out from fear.

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30 May 2013, 8:15 pm

I don't seem to have the initiation/connection gene. my SO had to do all that for me.

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