Aspies think too much?

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Just as an aside, the HAL/IBM thing is not true, unless you're calling Arthur C. Clark a liar when he specifically said it was just a coincidence.

Not only that but it's different when someone asks you for your opinion. If they don't ask I don't see how it's dishonest to not say anything. If you say something hurtful out of the blue I can't even see how it can be called honesty. If you're saying those things completely unprovoked it's more than just honesty. It's also being a jackass. If someone asks you for your opinion and they expect you to sugarcoat it I can see it being justified as honesty when you don't. That's understandable in my books. It still hurts feelings and it's not socially acceptable but if I'd give someone the benefit of the doubt if the opinion was asked for. I wouldn't do that for someone who just came out and said something hurtful for no conceivable reason.

That was the point I was making.. I hope that was the collective form of "you". Anyway, yes, I agree. In cases where the opinion is asked for, you don't have to sugarcoat it, but being nice about it is important - that's still honest, because most of us do honestly don't want to distress other people and opinions can be perceived differently than they were intended.

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Aspies are supposed to lack empathy and care. Therefore, they should feel little to no worry about the outcome with others because to do so would be illogical.

Yet this post suggests that Aspies care too much about what happens as a result of a social interaction.

Am I missing something here?

From the posts at WP it is apparent that asbies care a lot about ostracism. How many threads are there about how to make friends,find a partner etc?

Yes. The current/emerging understanding seems to be that, while Aspies/Auties may not pick up on subtle cues, when they are aware of a traumatic/happy/exciting situation that others are going through, they empathize quite strongly, although they are likely to express that empathy in . . . uh, unexpected ways.

You forget that this is an aspie site, there is a lot of knowledge from personal experience. * Also,just because a university has a site on the internet does not mean that its studies should be dismissed. All universities have sites, are all their studies worthless? Maybe we should no longer have universities?
* For example, I care about my clients and I am an asbie.The asbies I know care more and are more empathic then normals.
PS :Using a photo and caption from the internet is your way of saying dont use information from the internet?

    Yes, you actually add 10 letters Red Kreepy Villain.

Too bad there isn't a "maybe" option because for me it would depend on the situation. In the situation you describe I would have to say no. I have a hard time accepting other peoples point of view so if a person were to contradict what I know (or feel) to be true I would just think they are full of s**t.

If it's about whether something you said was "weird" or not, then it's just a matter of opinion and probably no one's right or wrong.

If it's about an objective fact, then I trust myself rather than another person because I'm quite observant and remember things well. If someone says something that totally conflicts with what I clearly remember, then I simply think that another idiot is saying some rubbish. Something like that happens quite often and by now I know many people don't really try to stick to facts. They tend to very confidently say things they are not very sure about. They exaggerate, lie or don't know what they are saying. But of course if I don't remember something clearly, then I can't say that something another person says is rubbish, but I'd still be skeptical.

Your response is very intellectual. I also calculate the possibilities that what the person says is correct. I am asking how that makes you feel. Do you obsess with the calculations to make absolutely sure you did not do anything asbie?
Suppose that after a conversation a person asks why did you stick out your tongue at me. You have no memory of doing such a thing. Would you then do a frantic search of your memory banks?