Am I just lazy? Problems with motivation

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So it might just be ASD, huh? Well, I'm going to print out that stuff and tell my therapist and get his opinion on where to go from here.

I meant to reply to this thread yesterday, but couldn't raise enough motivation.

I have a hard time getting motivated to do anything,why run around like a chicken with it's head cut off,I'd rather just sit and stare but groceries don't magically appear.Some times I envy rocks.It seems like such a major effort to go anywhere or do anything.I have made procrastination a career.It takes me forever to get ready to go anywhere.The only time I can really get motivated is when I have a bout of hypo-mania.there is a big pile of dishes that need to be done,but since I'm the only one here and no one can see them but me,I just don't give a fat rats ass about doing them.I'd rather eat out of the skillet.And I would probably feel resentful if someone showed up because then I would feel like it was mandatory to clean up for company.And I just hate it when someone just pops in.

Our lack of motivation can impact other people. You're right.

I'm not really sure. You could try tutoring ESL on weekends or something( just 3 hours a week on Saturday, for example) and see whether you have major problems interacting with a child. The problems with that are 1) you won't get the sense of how you'd be with a whole class and 2) you'd have to do this one top of you day job so it might be exhausting. I'd suggest volunteering at a school in the classroom or a day care for kids who are ESL but it might be hard to get into (they need to do a thorough police check and background check which takes a long time) and also I don't know if you'd have time for this because of your job.

Honestly, I had a lot of ASD related problems when I did work in a daycare and essentially got fired (I was a supply and they just stopped calling me in or scheduling me for hours). Teaching English in another country might be completely different though. For one thing, my acquaintance who taught in Korea said that the children are much more disciplined and motivated to learn than children in North America which made teaching them and keeping them under control a lot easier(I know she's talking about Korean children and you'd be teaching Japanese but it might be similar).

While my comment was intended as humour what I said was actually true. I've had problems with motivation all my life. I'm always leaving important things to the last minute or just not doing them anyway. If I'm given a choice between doing something that is of no importance but is interesting I'll do it rather than something that is boring that is very important. I really struggle with motivation. I have problems with executive functioning that are well beyond what could be described as laziness - so for example if I find it interesting to chop a tree down I'll do that along with all the physical exertion necessary rather than pull up a handful of disinteresting weeds from my garden that will become bigger weeds or set seed if left.

Well, I wouldn't necessarily be teaching children in Japan; I may teach adults instead. Also, I don't really have any training in teaching ESL, but the company I would be hired for would provide such training. Still, volunteering a school or day care may be worth it, to provide a supportive role while watching how it's done.

I think the similarity would be there, but I may also teach adults.

I recommend teaching adults to start with.

Adults are usually easier to teach than children.

You can try getting one tutoring job (paid or unpaid) to see if you like it and are good at it before you apply for opportunities in Japan.

Maybe try it online, first?