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29 Jun 2013, 5:16 pm

Ok, thanks for that. I feel a bit better now.


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29 Jun 2013, 5:24 pm

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Ok, thanks for that. I feel a bit better now.


What I'm getting at is that maybe you should try for a different type of man.



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29 Jun 2013, 5:27 pm

Well yes you might be right but I just usually take pot luck. I don't like to tie myself to a certain type. Maybe that's where I'm going wrong.


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29 Jun 2013, 5:29 pm

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Well yes you might be right but I just usually take pot luck. I don't like to tie myself to a certain type. Maybe that's where I'm going wrong.


I think it is. Now that I'm older, I see most of my problems came from blue collar types. There is simply an irreconcilable divide between them and me, though I did blue collar work for years while in college. It may be the same with you.



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29 Jun 2013, 5:32 pm

Well this one wasn't blue collar he was a professor, lecturer type person. I think he just wanted a bit of rough. but I think he forgot that even bits of rough have feelings. :cry:


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29 Jun 2013, 5:36 pm

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Well this one wasn't blue collar he was a professor, lecturer type person. I think he just wanted a bit of rough. but I think he forgot that even bits of rough have feelings. :cry:


I understand. The way I look at things like that is at least I know to avoid that person in the future before they can harm me in some serious way.



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29 Jun 2013, 5:42 pm

Well I wont be going to that particular club again anyway so the chances of me bumping into him again are pretty slim. I'm more upset because I've realised that I'll never have all the things that most other women have, and until I met him I never really wanted them. I feel let down more than anything.


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29 Jun 2013, 5:45 pm

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Well I wont be going to that particular club again anyway so the chances of me bumping into him again are pretty slim. I'm more upset because I've realised that I'll never have all the things that most other women have, and until I met him I never really wanted them. I feel let down more than anything.


As a woman, you have something to deal with that I don't: Men wanting you for nothing but what you have between your legs. Again, almost all men want that, but most men want the woman it belongs to as well. Your job is to determine the difference.



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29 Jun 2013, 5:48 pm

babybird wrote:
I think he just wanted a bit of rough. but I think he forgot that even bits of rough have feelings. :cry:


No.

He doesn't care that you have feelings.

Bit of a difference.

You're a shag to him (and some others), that's all. The idea is to give you only the attention that's necessary to put out, and then when they are finished, they discard you. They are not good people. Make it clear what you will and won't do.

What do you want from people?



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29 Jun 2013, 5:49 pm

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Men wanting you for nothing but what you have between your legs


That's great if that's what you're into. Not great if you're being manipulated into giving it up.



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29 Jun 2013, 5:50 pm

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Men wanting you for nothing but what you have between your legs


That's great if that's what you're into. Not great if you're being manipulated into giving it up.


I agree. Most women want to be appreciate for who they are too, and I think that's the case with Babybird.



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29 Jun 2013, 5:52 pm

That's why I wont be going to that place again. I'm a bit naïve when it come to relationships and I'm too trusting as well.


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29 Jun 2013, 5:54 pm

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That's why I wont be going to that place again. I'm a bit naïve when it come to relationships and I'm too trusting as well.


The kind of thing you describe is why women aren't more trusting; they have good reason not to be, and the younger and better looking they are, the less trusting they tend to be. It sounds as if you are learning.



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29 Jun 2013, 6:00 pm

I suppose he was a shag to me too in a way but I thought 3 weeks was long enough to wait. In the past I've done it on the first day. I can't seem to win. Thanks for all your help anyway. It was good to be able to get it out, I've been pondering on it for weeks.


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29 Jun 2013, 6:03 pm

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That's why I wont be going to that place again. I'm a bit naïve when it come to relationships and I'm too trusting as well.


All else fails, open a Reddit throaway and ask people there for relationship advice.

No, I's srs.



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29 Jun 2013, 6:46 pm

He wasn't that good at it anyway, I've had a better time on the top deck of a bus :lol: .


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