Cold callers always say "It's nothing to worry about.&q

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Unfortunately it's a uPVC door!

I think in a strange way, the fact that I always open the door to see who it is, is part of the rule-bound trait in me. Like "What if it's someone official, like the meter reader or someone I'm meant to speak to for some important reason." Crazy really. Cos despite the fact that most times it is someone I didn't want or need to speak to I still do it. Although I have ignored the meter reader man once or twice ( )

I'm sure that it would still be possible, I can look into for you, let me know?

Knowing who is there may allow you to appear more composed when you do open the door.

That's really sweet of you to offer, I think I just need to remind myself to check through the window first as it's easy to see who's at the door from there!

Then I'm confused what the dilemma is, how they are seeing you or talking to you this much. I didn't mean literally you said 'come on in' - in the first paragraph I said "you don't have to open the door" - it sounded like you opened the door and they pushed their way in a bit. Because it sounds like multiple conversations have happened with some of them and you did mention "he looked at me" and "I must have looked scared," which I read as, you had opened the door and they saw you; and " I hate to let them in" which I read as, you had let them in, and regretted it.

Now I'm confused what was needed here.

Well, a lot of cold callers are people to be worried about. Many of them will try to get your personal details and steal your money. What my friend did was keep them on the phone for over an hour so that he could troll them (and keep them distracted for a while). It was hilarious:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rvn6mCzRRpU[/youtube]

I used to get Jehovah's Witnesses visit and I think I was the only person who actually stopped to talk with them. I think they even got sick of me, haha.

I don't think I get that from cold callers, but I think I know what you are referring to and I get it at other times. Someone posted recently (I can't remember who or where) about being asked by their boss whether they wanted to attend a meeting at work. They thought about it for a moment, asking themselves questions like "what is this meeting about and should I go?", that sort of thing, but they must have had an expression on their face that the boss interpreted as concern, and responded in a similar manner to your example I think.

I also tend to do this - if I'm thinking before I respond (or just thinking about what the person is saying) my facial expression must look like I'm worried because often people will say things like "is that okay?", "don't worry, it's fine", "you look unsure about what I just said", etc etc. I'm guessing that you might have a similar expression on your face because you are thinking about what the person has just said, absorbing who they are and what they want.

Basically, my hypothesis is that this happens due to a "furrowed brow" look on our face.

I heard the general rule for telemarketers is they need to hear the word "NO" 3 times before they are allowed to hang up.

Increasingly unwanted callers seem to think that they need to ring the bell and knock at the same time. This gets me very upset. I am convinced it is something VERY bad but could not leave the door unanswered. By the time I get to the door I am so worked up and, unlike most people on this post, I am invariably rude and once I gave someone such a lecture they apologised. Telemarketers drive me mad. I only answer calls where the number is shown or caller withheld ones as they are often from official people like our not so local Aspergers service who rang the other day - why do most doctors and councils have withheld numbers?? Again I am very rude to the people who do manage to get through. I know they are only trying to earn an honest living but I think invading my privacy is disgusting. Even worse are the scammers who target 'suckers' like old people with dementia. OK, rant over for the day. Am I very bad?