Negligent of friendships

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Well, the person would call, and I would be like, "Hmm." I would just look at the person's name on caller ID. Sometimes I may muster up the will to call, but often I won't. I don't quite know what this feeling is, but it seems to be indifference.

EDIT: I also get a feeling like I'm doing something naughty.

I have the same problem. I can easily make friends, but I refuse to be someone's friend if they can't be "mature" or "polite to others"

Between my friends and juggling time to spend with my girlfriend (whom I broke up with months ago), I got really stressed out. My sister may have this problem too, but she's never shown any stress.

I'm bad about keeping up with friends. I don't like to call people unless I have something important or interesting to tell them. Otherwise, I feel like I'm intruding on their lives. And since either 1) I rarely have anything interesting to say, or 2) what I find interesting my friends may not, I just don't call. It rarely crosses my mind that they might just want to hear from me regarding my welfare or that it might make them feel good to know I'm thinking of them.

In some cases though, the friends themselves are partially to blame. I will call, the friend will act all happy to hear from me, but can't talk right then. She says she will call me back. She doesn't, I call back and then the friend claims they THOUGHT they had called me back. This cycle continues over and over, until I get tired of being ignored and stop calling. Then I hear from a mutual friend that the first friend is pissed because I haven't been calling. But yet they won't pick up a phone themselves.

It's funny this topic came up because I've been recently re-evaluating my relationship with someone I thought was my best friend for the past 30 years.
We were like Frick and Frack in junior high and then she moved away right before high school. We kept in touch and visited each other all these years. I was the maid of honor in her wedding. I knew she had other close friends, one in particular, but I still thought I was the "BFF" and never thought my status was threatened being the naive aspie I am. I though nothing of not calling for months on end. I'd often let her calls go to voicemail because I wasn't prepared to listen to her chat my ears off for two hours. She got mad that I wouldn't read the e-cards she sent me or acknowledge things going on in her life, like her kids birthdays, etc. (I didn't have any kids at the time, it didn't occur to me how much her life revolved around them.) I guess she moved on to someone who was more proactive and I'm not even sure when because her and this friend from her high school have in recent months been posting old "buddy" photos on facebook and referring to each other at BFF in their posts. Ironically, this other friend only lives about an hour from me here in Florida but whenever my friend comes to Florida she visits her and not me. Until now, clueless me assumed she just didn't know how close I lived. Of course she'd want to see me! Now, I'm realizing that I blew it and she's not really interested in visiting me. So far in my experience, every friendship I've had has eventually failed. I don't know why I thought that friendship was immune.