Are You Aware Of Your Oral Social Mistakes?

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I get the memory flash backs aswell unfortunely, one of the downsides of having a superior long term memory. I catch some of my mistakes as I am saying them, like having a 1-2 second delay, others by the reactions of the listener and often I misread or can't read the listener's reaction so I never get to know if I made a mistake most of the time. Of course I am sure I miss just as meny mistakes as I catch, maybe more. The unknowns of social interaction sure does add to social anxiety.

I do realize that most of the times. I try to correct it if I can, but don't try too hard. Most of the time I'm just telling the truth, if people can't take it they're just overly sensitive. I think that might be why I always get along better with guys or tom boy girls, because they're not too sensitive. This social tact thing is a bit over-rated.

I do speak much more carefully around well-bred, respectful people. To rude people I tend to be rude, too.

Sometimes. It can go one of three ways:

* I'm completely oblivious until someone (usually my parents) points it out

* I notice it as soon as they react, and it takes me by surprise because I didn't expect that reaction

* I knew they'd react badly, but it needed to be said and I lacked the skill to say it politely (eg asking for a different karate partner because my current partner was getting mad at me for being too slow)



I try not to. I think guilt is only warranted when you actually intended harm. But sometimes I still feel guilty, due to negative social conditioning teaching me to feel responsible for things I couldn't help.

Sometimes I am aware but not always. I have had instances where people have responded very harshly to me because I said or did something they felt was inappropriate without realizing it and that makes me feel embarrassed and sometimes ashamed and at times even scared.

I'm usually never aware of the verbal social mistakes that I make until someone corrects me or informs me that what I've said was very wrong or offensive. I do feel regret after making those mistakes. I usually try not to repeat those mistakes in the future.

Me too. I do the same things you both said. I am glad to know that I am not the only one who remembers things from decades ago and still responds to them emotionally as if they were fresh. I love my great long term memory but that is a difficult part of it. I have that couple of seconds delay sometimes too, sometimes my delay is even longer like minutes, hours, or even days.