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03 Aug 2013, 8:59 pm

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I am used to standing out in the group, being the odd one out, etc... but over here nobody even seems to notice me! I actually find this to be refreshing. People have accused me of trying to get attention, but here I am not getting attention, and for once in my life I feel normal.

Perhaps it is not that we are seeking attention but that we appear to be seeking attention due to our "odd" behaviors. I do not feel the desire to make myself stand out on WP, just like I don't feel the desire to make myself stand out anywhere else.

I simply stand out everywhere but here.

Anyone else experience this?
Makes sense to me.
How odd would one have to be to stand out here, I think is the point.
No disrespect meant. Just saying that if this is a group that attracts people who didn't fit in other groups,
then we tend to cancel out each other's weirdness sheerly due to our numbers & combined variety/diversity.

I'm not unusual for the sake of being unusual
(attention-seeking, any more than any person, NT or ASD, seeks to be validated & acknowledged),
I just am how I am & it gets called "unusual" by the majority.


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03 Aug 2013, 9:54 pm

I think I know what you mean. At regular school, I was singled out for oddness. When I went to a fine arts school, I was just another kid.


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03 Aug 2013, 11:20 pm

I did kinda stand out for who I was in HS, but at college, I was just another person.


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03 Aug 2013, 11:49 pm

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Perhaps it is not that we are seeking attention but that we appear to be seeking attention due to our "odd" behaviors.


Makes sense.


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04 Aug 2013, 12:08 am

It is a liberating experience to not stand out on WP. I can freely express my views without any harsh consequences from oftentimes an inflexible society in real life.



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06 Aug 2013, 6:05 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
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Perhaps it is not that we are seeking attention but that we appear to be seeking attention due to our "odd" behaviors.


Makes sense.
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06 Aug 2013, 8:22 pm

Yes, I agree. I so love the feeling of being normal and I think that's why I have stuck around on WP and in autism circles for so long. I try not to stand out much here, either, though - just enough to be distinguishable from other members and, of course, making sure that people would be willing to read and respond to what I have to say. But it's not as much about me as it is about the content of my posts, the meaning and its impact on others here, as well as feedback I get from it that helps me intellectually and emotionally stabilize myself. People tend to draw too much attention to me as a person in real life and it makes me very uncomfortable.


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