Aspie men not replying to message = not interested?

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Sorry, been busy.

All of that was information. At no point did you ask a question. There is nothing I can add to what you've said, and I'm not curious for more information.

About the only thing I could reply with would be:
ok.
Be safe, see you soon.

Nope, I'm out of ideas...

-Not interested

-Doesn't know what to say

-Shy

-Is on vacation

-Saving the world

-He forgot

-Maybe he died

It doesn't look like something that needs a reply. To make sure you want him to reply, check that you used at least one question mark.

This could very likely be a social overload on him. In other words, he is scared that if he responds in a way not comforting (and this is a BIG issue with us on the spectrum), he will offend you. He might feel it's easier to pretend he never saw that message, and it might be easier for him to apologize to you for that, rather than to try to undo hurt feelings caused by responding to you on a heavy subject "improperly".

And of course I would never rule out a computer hiccup (he is unaware of the message, despite the indication that he was to receive it).

OR, as the post above says, we are very literal-minded, which could cause us not to reply to what we perceived as a statement and not a conversation opener. I'm often accused of not replying to messages for that reason. If you text me that your TV is broken, and that you're thinking about eating at a certain restaurant tonight, I might not reply because I figured you were just sharing your state of affairs. But maybe an NT would read that same text as "Can you come over and try to repair my TV, and then we'll go out to eat?"

Charles