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02 Feb 2007, 8:45 pm

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Yes, I feel this way all the time. I get overwhelmed and then don't know--and don't want to--start whatever it is I need to do. Also, when I have a lot of things to do in a schedule, I'm unusually prone to forgetting something on that list. I'm not sure if they're related or not, but I do wish I had a greater motivation level to complete multiple tasks.


I can relate to this completely. It is the complete feeling of helplessness whilst knowing that I have so much to do that gets me stressed. This is especially so at work, where I struggle to organise a multitude of tasks.


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02 Feb 2007, 8:59 pm

Wow... I want to show this thread to my boyfriend! I am left to clean the apartment because he does not have a clue how to be tidy, pick up after himself, etc. If he has lost something, which is not hard to do, he throws everything around and does not pick it all up afterward. I just get so overwhelmed with this HUGE MESS and I don't know what to do. I feel stuck! I can't clean it all by myself in one day, and it's freaking me out. I just want to be organised, clean, and tidy, so I don't have to worry about it. I want more control over my environment. I can't have family or friends over because of this huge mess. I also make lists with huge amounts of tasks that I cannot complete in one day. So I write these lists to relieve anxiety, but sometimes it does the opposite! I really suck at setting goals.



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02 Feb 2007, 10:54 pm

oh yes I totally have that. When bunch of things are on the way, I just get high instead and say "f**k it".
But I am always carried on by the help of family/friends, so I am one lucky Motherf***er :)



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03 Feb 2007, 12:42 am

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Go_lightly wrote:
Is it common for people with AS to get easily stressed? If I have too many things to do (like 2 or 3...) I tend to do shut down and instead do absolutely nothing. It doesn´t help...
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Yeah, i call this my stuck at freeze mode, where I don't ever get to fight or flight because I am just so overwhelmed I get stuck at freeze.

Sometimes I dont' even pay bills when I'm in one of my freeze modes. My question is...How do we deal with this? I have learned some coping methods, but would like to hear about others as well. I use breathing to calm down so I can ask, "Is there anything I can do about X right this second?" If there is, I try to do it, if not, I tell myself there is nothing I can do right that moment....I think part of my problem is that later I forget to do something about it! :lol:


You wont believe it but I was talkin about this concept last night with my mom. I mean, whenever it seems to be a fight or flight situation, I tend to freeze instead, like a deer in headlights. thats so cool that someone else thought of this as well!



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04 Feb 2007, 6:13 am

I tried yoga. It just made me even more stressed out... :lol:



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04 Feb 2007, 7:46 am

I used to just 'go with the flow' and now I don't know how I ever did it. It must have been the magic of being young and not having to deal with the kind of responsibilities that I do now. Life feels overwhelming when it is anything worse than the best of times of me. When everything seems great is the only time I feel like I am free from stress. Otherwise it just piles on.

I feel like I'm constantly under stress, and the thing I hate the most about it is when I take it out on others.

I have to force myself to try and break things down into pieces, or I feel myself wanting to give up or ignore the things I need to do. If I am feeling especially stressed anyway, and then run into conflict with my wife, I go into a total shutdown.