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21 Nov 2013, 12:24 pm

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I am getting desperate to move out, but I can't at the moment due to different circumstances, but as soon as I am sorted and ready, I will get my own place. I am getting seriously stressed out living at home, because my brother and I don't get along at all, and he won't move out, so I guess it's got to be me. Plus my mum has two sisters and a brother, and neither of them seem to have many friends at all (even though they're middle-aged NTs) and so they all find somebody's living-room to all hide out in at week-ends, and when they decide to choose our living-room, the house becomes almost as hectic as a clubhouse, and I've just got to get out. At least I have more friends to see than my NT relatives, so I get out and see them. Makes me feel good too. But I do like time to myself and the noise of activity and interaction from other people just drives me crazy. Not only people, it's also my cat what is doing my head in too, all she does is miaw, miaw, miaw and doesn't know when to stop. Yes I know I can't expect peace when living with people - which is why I'm looking into moving out in the not-too-distant future. The only thing what stresses me out is moving somewhere with noisy neighbours.

Sadly I can't just up and move to Canada, I know I get highly irritated with the pressure of my family but I still like to be near them.


Joe, how about Scotland, as one of the other posters discussed? I understand Scotland is a good ways from East Anglia. But it is also a cheaper and less crowded place to live. An NT computer programmer friend of mine just bought six acres with a house outside of Edinburgh. His wife is from Oxford and said that same place would have cost at least twice as much in southern England.


joe's half a world away from scotland, i think



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21 Nov 2013, 12:28 pm

HDLMatchette wrote:
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I am getting desperate to move out, but I can't at the moment due to different circumstances, but as soon as I am sorted and ready, I will get my own place. I am getting seriously stressed out living at home, because my brother and I don't get along at all, and he won't move out, so I guess it's got to be me. Plus my mum has two sisters and a brother, and neither of them seem to have many friends at all (even though they're middle-aged NTs) and so they all find somebody's living-room to all hide out in at week-ends, and when they decide to choose our living-room, the house becomes almost as hectic as a clubhouse, and I've just got to get out. At least I have more friends to see than my NT relatives, so I get out and see them. Makes me feel good too. But I do like time to myself and the noise of activity and interaction from other people just drives me crazy. Not only people, it's also my cat what is doing my head in too, all she does is miaw, miaw, miaw and doesn't know when to stop. Yes I know I can't expect peace when living with people - which is why I'm looking into moving out in the not-too-distant future. The only thing what stresses me out is moving somewhere with noisy neighbours.

Sadly I can't just up and move to Canada, I know I get highly irritated with the pressure of my family but I still like to be near them.


Joe, how about Scotland, as one of the other posters discussed? I understand Scotland is a good ways from East Anglia. But it is also a cheaper and less crowded place to live. An NT computer programmer friend of mine just bought six acres with a house outside of Edinburgh. His wife is from Oxford and said that same place would have cost at least twice as much in southern England.


joe's half a world away from scotland, i think


The uncrowded parts are a long way from East Anglia, though not a half a world away. Canada is a lot further though. It would be a matter of getting on a train or bus.



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21 Nov 2013, 12:43 pm

again, this is if you have the money to live in viera.



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21 Nov 2013, 1:16 pm

I think it would be nice to live in an ASD community one day, but I don't have that kind of money (doubt I ever will) and I don't want to move away from my family just yet. If something like that does get going, I might move in sometime years from now.



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21 Nov 2013, 1:18 pm

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I think it would be nice to live in an ASD community one day, but I don't have that kind of money (doubt I ever will) and I don't want to move away from my family just yet. If something like that ever gets going, I might move in sometime years from now.


you might have to ask your family



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21 Nov 2013, 1:19 pm

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Anybody with two hundred grand to spend on a house would be much better off buying some acreage somewhere way out in the sticks. At least in my experience, the best "AS community" is a community of one, and acreage allows for that. Distances are so great out here that I rarely ever see my neighbors. I have my own little world inside my head, and another on the ground. I think this is the best we can do.


That is my DREAM. My ideal situation. I will never have that kind of money, but if I did, that scenario is exactly what I'd be aiming for.

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As our British poster noted, the problem isn't the price of the real estate so much as it is an almost total lack of any means to support one's self. It is also the case that if one moves to an unpopulated area, one doesn't need a huge amount of acreage.

Living the lifestyle I advocate, I can say that it is the ideal for aspies.


I'm working and supporting myself, but what I make, and my savings, will always be too small to ever get to own property or land. I'm self sufficient but only at survival level, I guess you could say.

But also, if I did have the cash to live in a truly isolated spot -- then what to do for work? Nothing and nobody would be nearby! I'd have to be independently wealthy -- win the lottery! :lol:



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21 Nov 2013, 1:22 pm

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Anybody with two hundred grand to spend on a house would be much better off buying some acreage somewhere way out in the sticks. At least in my experience, the best "AS community" is a community of one, and acreage allows for that. Distances are so great out here that I rarely ever see my neighbors. I have my own little world inside my head, and another on the ground. I think this is the best we can do.


That is my DREAM. My ideal situation. I will never have that kind of money, but if I did, that scenario is exactly what I'd be aiming for.

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As our British poster noted, the problem isn't the price of the real estate so much as it is an almost total lack of any means to support one's self. It is also the case that if one moves to an unpopulated area, one doesn't need a huge amount of acreage.

Living the lifestyle I advocate, I can say that it is the ideal for aspies.


I'm working and supporting myself, but what I make, and my savings, will always be too small to ever get to own property or land. I'm self sufficient but only at survival level, I guess you could say.

But also, if I did have the cash to live in a truly isolated spot -- then what to do for work? Nothing and nobody would be nearby! I'd have to be independently wealthy -- win the lottery! :lol:


I understand about the work thing. One of the reasons I became a librarian was so that I could live where I wanted while still making enough to support myself.

As far as buying land goes, for the price of a house in a big city in even a halfway decent area would buy a lot of land way out in the boonies.



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21 Nov 2013, 1:22 pm

BirdInFlight wrote:
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Anybody with two hundred grand to spend on a house would be much better off buying some acreage somewhere way out in the sticks. At least in my experience, the best "AS community" is a community of one, and acreage allows for that. Distances are so great out here that I rarely ever see my neighbors. I have my own little world inside my head, and another on the ground. I think this is the best we can do.


That is my DREAM. My ideal situation. I will never have that kind of money, but if I did, that scenario is exactly what I'd be aiming for.

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As our British poster noted, the problem isn't the price of the real estate so much as it is an almost total lack of any means to support one's self. It is also the case that if one moves to an unpopulated area, one doesn't need a huge amount of acreage.

Living the lifestyle I advocate, I can say that it is the ideal for aspies.


I'm working and supporting myself, but what I make, and my savings, will always be too small to ever get to own property or land. I'm self sufficient but only at survival level, I guess you could say.

But also, if I did have the cash to live in a truly isolated spot -- then what to do for work? Nothing and nobody would be nearby! I'd have to be independently wealthy -- win the lottery! :lol:


but then how would you meet spectrumites if you needed help?



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21 Nov 2013, 1:24 pm

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Thelibrarian wrote:
BirdInFlight wrote:
Thelibrarian wrote:
Anybody with two hundred grand to spend on a house would be much better off buying some acreage somewhere way out in the sticks. At least in my experience, the best "AS community" is a community of one, and acreage allows for that. Distances are so great out here that I rarely ever see my neighbors. I have my own little world inside my head, and another on the ground. I think this is the best we can do.


That is my DREAM. My ideal situation. I will never have that kind of money, but if I did, that scenario is exactly what I'd be aiming for.

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As our British poster noted, the problem isn't the price of the real estate so much as it is an almost total lack of any means to support one's self. It is also the case that if one moves to an unpopulated area, one doesn't need a huge amount of acreage.

Living the lifestyle I advocate, I can say that it is the ideal for aspies.


I'm working and supporting myself, but what I make, and my savings, will always be too small to ever get to own property or land. I'm self sufficient but only at survival level, I guess you could say.

But also, if I did have the cash to live in a truly isolated spot -- then what to do for work? Nothing and nobody would be nearby! I'd have to be independently wealthy -- win the lottery! :lol:


but then how would you meet spectrumites if you needed help?


I'm 51 and have never met a spectrumite yet, and I'm doing just fine. Again, I won't say I wouldn't want to me other aspies, just that it's not necessary.



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21 Nov 2013, 1:34 pm

HDLMatchette wrote:
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I think it would be nice to live in an ASD community one day, but I don't have that kind of money (doubt I ever will) and I don't want to move away from my family just yet. If something like that ever gets going, I might move in sometime years from now.


you might have to ask your family


Or are there any reasonably priced places to rent? Again, it's definitely not something that I would want to do right now, but I will keep it in mind for the future when I am ready to move out. Viera would actually be a pretty good location for me. I would not want to move to the middle of nowhere as other posters have suggested because I know it wouldn't work for me and the kinds of things that I enjoy doing. I would also appreciate being near support groups and having public transportation, and that sort of thing that would actually enable me to live on my own.



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21 Nov 2013, 1:58 pm

Quill wrote:
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I think it would be nice to live in an ASD community one day, but I don't have that kind of money (doubt I ever will) and I don't want to move away from my family just yet. If something like that ever gets going, I might move in sometime years from now.


you might have to ask your family


Or are there any reasonably priced places to rent? Again, it's definitely not something that I would want to do right now, but I will keep it in mind for the future when I am ready to move out. Viera would actually be a pretty good location for me. I would not want to move to the middle of nowhere as other posters have suggested because I know it wouldn't work for me and the kinds of things that I enjoy doing. I would also appreciate being near support groups and having public transportation, and that sort of thing that would actually enable me to live on my own.


yes there are. in fact, there are four homes in the area that have pools and are under $200,000.



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21 Nov 2013, 2:04 pm

those 4 homes, actually, you can buy.



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21 Nov 2013, 2:24 pm

viera's also home to the minor league baseball team, the Brevard County Manatees



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21 Nov 2013, 2:49 pm

In the AS community within an already existing community we are planning, we have come to the decision that being within easy access of buses, jobs, parks, etc. is important. That is why we will be selling our home, which is in the country, and buying one in a more populated area. [most likely Thornton, Colorado] We will be providing room and board at great prices and support each other in our particular strengths and weaknesses. We already have a few families with autist children interested in purchasing homes in the same neighborhood and we have plans to exponentially grow from there. We will be discussing and planning this in one of the workshops at our mini AS retreat {AutHaven] that will be in the mountains of Colorado in February of 2014. It will be 3 nights long and food, lodging, etc. will cost only $100 per person, payable at arrival. If you are interested in being a part of our community, or establishing a similar one in your area, please consider attending.



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21 Nov 2013, 3:56 pm

once you move to viera you can be Manatees fans



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21 Nov 2013, 7:35 pm

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$200,000


Just having $200 spare would be nice right now.


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