What Are The Things You Like/Dislike about Aspergers?

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another plus few would have a better relationship with animals than moi, again and again I had "aggresive" animals eating out of the palm of my hand the nt's can't explain it , their dumbfounded by it , though I wouldn't try that party trick with security dogs....

So then obviously not unlovable

I've seen a crocodile eat meat from a man's hand...

Newly dx´ed, so I am just beginning to get the picture here.

Like: My specialist nature, my special interests = a world of its own, the obsessiveness that helps me to absorb knowledge/develop skills very fast when interested.

+ Being able to forgive myself for atypical behavior in an unguarded moment now and then because now I know what it is.
(I´m not crazy or weird. Sometimes I just have a pale blue complexion and antennas under my skin).

Dislike: Anxiety and depressions.

I didn't have food I was able to pat them, politicians have a saying about journalists feed the crocodile or it eats you ....

I agree I've been warned by a mod that I should stop saing autistics are unloveable, well I mainatain tro humans they are .

My own list includes:

Likes:
-Unique perspective of the world.
-Witty sarcastic sense of humor.
-Easily entertained when alone (video games, internet surfing, reading, etc)
-Quiet, which means I don't disturb people.
-Excellent memory (can remember specific events that happened to me)
-I have my own unique way to "charm" people without having to do what everyone else does.

Dislikes:
-Actions or inactions are easily misunderstood, such as not giving a hug or saying something to someone.
-Socializing in groups of 6 or more is near impossible, even though I want to.
-Feeling left out sometimes as a result of the above.

I'm having a lot of difficulty deciding which of the things I like about myself are just me and which are caused/influenced by AS. I couldn't really decide for most of them so the "like" section is a lot shorter than the dislike section. If the question were "what do you like and dislike about yourself, with particular focus on AS?" then the list might have been more balanced - I'm not as miserable right now as this list might make me sound

Like:
Seeing things differently to other people/having a different perspective.
Tending to think more logically than most.
Ability to easily retain lots of information/learn things quickly.

Dislike:
Anxiety all the bloody time.
Trouble maintaining relationships (I mean in the general rather than romantic sense).
The fact that I am very sociable but find it difficult to actually socialise with people without expending vast amounts of energy.
Trouble initiating and completing tasks.
Trouble with planning and timekeeping.
Sensory issues.
Anxiety again (by far the worst thing about AS for me). Social anxiety in particular is the worst.
The stuff that comes with it e.g. I also have OCD and am being assessed for ADHD.

Several weeks ago, my husband, youngest son and I had lunch with a gentleman I had met at GRASP the week before. My "adopted" brother passed away last spring, and I have missed him so much. Talking with this guy we felt the same type of connection that we had with my late brother. So, I asked him if he would like to be my brother. He said yes and now we talk every day. He IS my new brother [coincidentally both my late and current brothers are named Bill] If we were not BOTH autistic I doubt I would have either of my brothers named Bill[first was not autistic. he was schizophrenic] So, yeah, that is a great thing about being autistic.

What I hate most about autism? Being treated as "less than by most NTs' [yes, even most of the nice ones]." Knowing that most of my people are also being treated that way.

pros- the fact that I can drift through philosophical thoughts and ponder the complexities of existence in my own little bubble. Its actually a very nice feeling for me. getting exited about my current interests, I feel like a child when I find something new that I have been thinking compulsively of. Having a special bond with animals.

Cons- People bursting my bubble and intruding on my space, confusing me with inconsequential gossip. inevitably being ostracized and persecuted for being myself.. I hate having aspergers so much I feel like screaming and crying and kicking and biting everything in site. until I am on my own again, when I feel a peace at being in my bubble, a bubble that is open to anyone here that has dealt with the hell of other people and are hurt.

the cons while terrifyingly painful and damaging in ways I never knew possible are still out weighed by the pros because the cons have taught me the value of treating others with respect, dignity and compassion. lessons which I may not have learned otherwise.
so even the cons are a painful pro. to all aspies

Similar to others
Pros:
1. ability to absorb quickly and understand whatever becomes a special interest
2. realizing why life has been such a struggle for me

Cons:
1. continual anxiety and depression
2. find it draining to do small everyday tasks

Being chewed out for not knowing when to do or say things that don't really make a lot of sense to me is very annoying, and when I give a logical reason for not doing so, it doesn't help.

Good points:

Ummm....I'll get back to you.


Bad points:

Asperger's makes me a bad person because I find myself getting bitter about NTs for being NTs, instead of stopping to appreciate what I have. I know I could change my attitude but I don't know how.

You are NOT unloveable! If you were the animals would never trust you.

Make a pot of chili and feed it to the homeless and tell me about the unloveabilty you receive.

Learn to make balloons animals and make some magic at a childrens hospital.[you may never see them again, but more than the kids, the parents of the children will remember you with gratefulness and love the rest of their lives.

Help out at a food bank, or a soup kitchen.

Tell someone who is sad that you will pray for them [and then do it]

Find an autistic support group.

Post something kind every day to someone on WP.

NEVER give up on yourself. Please.





Offer your bus seat to someone who looks like they need it.

Likes:
being able to knock out a 6 foot tall painting in under 3 hours
being able to hyper focus in on the things I love
my synesthesia (which I had no idea was not "normal" until just a couple of years ago)
the rare moment I connect with someone similar to me or shares an interest
seeing the patterns in EVERYTHING and how the world all connects to itself

Dislikes:
confusing social situations
sensory issues (lighting, noises, smells)
when things get overwhelming, I get debilitatingly exhausted
feeling like I almost never can connect with others fully