Drinking and socialising

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Spirituality and Faith became commonplace for me and I noticed socializing became a little easier after a while. I also noticed that I don't allow alcohol to determine where I am going on any given night.

People don't faze me like they used to.

Yes, MODERATE amounts of alcohol have a good chance of improving my social skills.

Sober, I simply listen to conversations 99.9% of the time and am afraid to speak up for fear of making a "faux pas." But at least I'm less likely to ramble about a special interest and bore people!

With one drink (about a 0.02% BAC), I'm still pretty shy, but may actually be better at listening since most NT conversation becomes just slightly more interesting. This may be my "listening optimum."

My current estimate of "talking optimum" is about at a 0.06% BAC. (at my weight, starting sober, that's like taking about 2.5 shots or drinking four beers over about 2.5 hours.) At this level, I'm loose enough to speak when I want, but I still don't do too bad regarding the "conscious effort" to avoid rambling about a special interest or determine connotation/appropriateness. This level may be a tad higher if the people I'm talking to are drunk.

When drunk (like 0.10% and above), I'll sometimes just start rambling to people, not even bothering to learn their names, and will lose almost ALL ability to tell if they're listening to me or not. And I start risking a hangover at 0.12% and above.

Video game skills tend to follow a similar curve with alcohol.

This post was made stone cold sober.

I don't like to be drunk around people who I am usually sober around. However, I do enjoy watching them get drunk.

I find it fascinating how people suddenly change when they've had a drink or two.

I've never drank alcohol in my life (I'm on a medication regimen that prevents me from doing so), and I don't know how I would react socially if I drank alcohol in social settings.

I've read something in one of my mother's book: teenagers start drinking to ease their social anxiety. I know some people who don't drink alcohol and they are extremely social and extroverted.

+1. Teenagers drive each other to drink (and often drive) through the pressure to conform, conform, conform to social norms that are VERY stupid and destructive. Little wonder there's tension!

It'd be much better if the drug in question were marijuana! Sure, some studies say smoking at that age impairs learning, but alcohol no doubt does so MORE. While ideally they'd wait until their 20's to use any drug besides caffeine, if any teenager (or even child) I work with did use a drug, I would prefer it be marijuana. Stoned people tend to think they're MORE impaired than they are (with alcohol, they think they're LESS impaired) and will modulate their behavior - likely right out of the reckless behaviors that destroy teens' and young adults' lives!

Honestly, it depends on the day. Sometimes drinking makes me way more social, sometimes it just pushes me further into my head. I dunno if anyone else has found this to be true for them, but I really find it sort of depends on what mood I'm in that day.

I find that around friends or people I know, drinking helps me socialize only slightly better. I also find that around these people I'm more open to suggestions.

Around crowds of random strangers, on the other hand....no difference from being sober. Quiet as a mouse.

I would love to see what it's like to have a few drinks and be social, instead of standing meekly in a corner feeling like I'm not part of it. But I have a strong phobia of being sick (I even avoid coming into work if there's a sickness bug going around - that's how strong my fear is). So just having one or two drinks won't make a lot of difference, but having too many may help me be more social but might then make me sick later. So I just avoid drinking altogether, which leads to avoiding social situations.

If you mean drinking alcohol, I can't. It would wreak havoc with the meds I am on.

But non-alcoholic stuff, that's OK. I love socializing with those.

For me it only makes it worse. I dont really change at all. I mean i just get even more honest, in the sense i already have a problem with telling people what i think.

You dont get very popular if someone ask if they are fat, and you answer yes.

Because i dont like drinking, it tastes like crap. especially beer takes like pig urine. yuck.

Helps me loads. Xmas season with office parties and general darkness by 3 o'clock is only bearable with lots of red wine.

Generally speaking, alcohol is a great help to me in social situations.

I could relate to your story about chatting up guys (in a very direct way - I do that too) but inadvertently ignoring them too due to getting distracted etc. I was like that around 10 years ago when I used to go clubbing, and I would say yes, sometimes it offends people. I've gotten into a bit of trouble with that, nothing serious but it made me feel bad. So it's something to try to watch out for if you can. I know that's hard since you are, you know, inebriated and all!

I'm no more honest than usual when drunk as I am sober. I just feel happier and more mellowed out.

it is probably a good job that I prefer reading books in cafe's rather than going to night clubs (especially when there are not screaming toddlers nearby).

I am presently reading 'The Shark that walks on land'. Interesting book. The shark it refers to in the title is the Epaulette shark but there are other marine tales in there as well about mythical and real marine animals.