what took longer than normal for you to learn/ develop

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Tie shoes (still, shoe laces can't stay tied)
put clothes on (First time i put my clothes on by myself at age of 5 or 6)
Catching a ball (still I can't do it)
Throw something (It is difficult to hit the target)
Using a touch screen
Dancing (teacher kept telling me not to look at my feet, I don't know how to do it otherwise and forgetting steps)
Handwriting (it is still quite bad but readable)
Holding a pencil (It is uncomfortable to hold it "correct" way)
Swimming (everyone else can swim longer distances (~20+ meters) but I don't know how to swim more than 10 meters without getting tired)
Breathing through the nose (I will get little bit dizzy if I breath through nose for longer period of time ~10-20 sec)

Tbh everything more or less. And still stuff i havent learned properly .

Tie my shoes (I remember a teacher giving me this metal shoe with red laces, and I had to sit there and try to tie it for however long she wanted me to before I could go play at recess).
Learn math concepts
Tell time
Sleep alone

I still can't:
Skate (I learned to swim and ride a bike quite early, but even though I took two rounds of skating lessons, I just couldn't get the hang of it! And I wanted to so bad).
Drive
Put my own hair up
Keep track of my things
Have good social skills, especially with people who are around my age

There are probably more, but that's all I can think of right now.

I drank from my baby baba until I was 4.

I had trouble with potty training.

I couldn't shower by myself until I was about 10.

I slept with my parents until I was about 10 too.

Those are the big ones for me.

Bike riding (age 11)
Shoe tying (age 9)
Telling time (age 10 or so)
Most social skills/social understanding

I've had a lot of delays in my development.

I'm still learning.

I gotta echo everyone who said 'riding a bike', 'tying shoes', and 'swimming'. I still haven't learned how to swim. I had lessons for about 3 years in elementary. Never figured it out.

Guess those are the motorics issues, huh?

*Shoe Tying (STILL can't do it right!)
*Swimming (My first life failure was in swimming class. Then I failed again two years later). I must have cried for hours being such a perfectionist and honor roll student at that age.
*Skate (finally taught myself at 21 which in Canada is downright embarrassing)
*Learn abstract concepts (had to abandon hope of a career as an Engineer). Go figure my brother (a highly intelligent engineer) got straight A+s...... except in 3D spatialization (he almost failed it). Ironically enough I excel in it!
*Writing (I had hours upon hours every night working on it just to make it passable).
*Talk to Women (as a mate/partner). Then again, most men would claim they haven't figured it out either but they are doing a heck of a lot better than I am.

The one I had zero trouble with that many Aspies had trouble with is driving. I'm a natural born talent behind the wheel for some reason: must have to do with my obsession with Tractors/Excavators as a kid!

Motor skills (still fine motor)
speech articulation
social use (still)
daily living skills
swallowing without choking
new tasks
math
coping skills (still)
speak about concepts and complex thoughts

- Riding Bike (I remember feeling pressured to learn, as all the other neighborhood kids were doing it. I used to marvel at the kids who could do jumps and wheelies).
- Swimming (I remember having a deep dislike of going underwater).
- Skating (I never learned how to ice skate, roller skate or ride a skate board. I had terrible issues with balance. I still remember sitting in the lobby, as other kids skated, while I watched).
- Gymnastics (I was never able to do a forward or backward roll. I remember struggling with this in gym class).
- Running (I was a very slow runner, the second slowest runner in class).
- Playing Golf (I tried to learn, but could never hit the ball properly. I even took lessons, to no avail).

Yes my social skills still need work and how can you know that is not developed well and you just thought you were very shy and awkward. 20 some years later come to find out there is a reason why... a neurological difference known as NVLD and maybe Asperger's.

Some days it feels like everything took longer than normal to learn and ok that is on bad days. In reality looking at it from a different angle I learned to read better than several of my classmates in 1st and 2nd grade, was an excellent speller and was great at learning foreign languages which I had to start learning in 3rd grade to 6th grade and then took them up again in 10th grade, college and as an adult (living in Europe).

Speech, I know for certain.

As for the other stuff, my dad says I'm still "pervasively developmentally delayed" in many ways, though I'm not quite cognizant of them. Also, one time my therapist said I often acted like a 14-year old (at age 27/28).

Learning how to read
Making friends
Driving - Still cant
Spelling, grammer
Memorizing
Making eye contact
Facial expressions

Just growing up in general...I'm less motivated than I've usually been, getting lax and whatnot but some of the things kids'd complain about I wouldn't recognize, and when I did it was always the things younger kids, or the lazy kids would get worked up over, and then I didn't feel like I deserved the annoyed looks I got...How the hell would I get it, I was the "little brother" always?

Speaking
Walking
Potty Training
Tying my shoes
Learning to read
Sleeping without a night light
Riding a bike
Holding my eating utensils properly
Learning to swim