I am not funny

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Do you ever find something funny that no one else finds funny? Like, you are laughing at it and no one else is and they are all giving you the same WTF?? look?

I get that all the time.

NT's sure are confusing...

Sometimes people think I am really funny, but a lot of people don't appreciate my sense of humor because it is rather off-beat. Often I have gone to see a comedy movie with someone, and when the whole audience is bursting out laughing, I think it's stupid and can't even break a smile, and often when I laugh noone else is laughing at all. Anyone else get this?

Some people make a big deal about telling me that I'm not funny. But I know that can't possibly be true.

Those that I relate with will generally say that I have a good sense of humor.

I've also come to realize that normal everyday situations often can be pretty damn funny. Someone that just goes about blindly probably isn't going to see the humor in say, organizing things alphabetically (I can't think of a good example right now)

That, and some people are just way, way too serious.

Ha this thread is great and I can relate to every post on it. It is so amazing the little tiny things that you would have never thought anyone shared with you that Aspies seem to have in common with each other. I definitely have the problem, probably more in the past than now but still now to some degree, that people would think I was being funny when I was dead serious and vice versa. Actually probably the only reason I say it doesnt happen as much now is two reasons: a) I just spent eight months living with my dad in the middle of nowhere and wasnt around people much, and now that Im living on my own in town, well, Im still not with people that much, except when I get to hang out with some other Aspies which is of course awesome.... and b) I seem to have a habit of trying to make every interaction I engage in into a joke. That is, I try to make jokes. A lot. Almost everything I say I try to say in a joking manner. I dont think I do this consciously, I think I just subconsciously realized that if I can get them laughing, I can realize they dont hate me, and that does wonders for my panic level at the moment lol. Most of the time it actually works too. I seem to be able to make people laugh when I want to, for MOST people, now. But it still kinda sucks to have your whole self esteem in interpersonal reactions riding on making people laugh, and it doesn't really reflect who I really am.

I was told by people at high school and college that I was "actually really funny" (as if unpopular people can't have a sense of humour!) but then I started a uni course this year and every time I made a joke I either got people looking at me like I'd said something appalling or they showed nothing at all. It's funny that AS people aren't supposed to understand irony but it seems like it's actually the rest of the world who don't get it. I think I said something along the lines of "Yeah because all gay people are paedophiles" and these two people looked at me with disgust!!

I also had an experience when I was in a lecture with this guy who thought he was hilarious and kept cracking these awfully obvious jokes. All the other students were pissing themselves laughing and when I sat looking slightly confused I got people having a go at me saying I had no sense of humour (some people were verging on real anger at the fact that I didn't find this guy funny). I once got dragged to the cinema to watch American Pie 2, which was mildly funny, and all of my friends were saying it was the funniest thing they've ever seen. Have they never seen Bottom?? Probably not.

I often find little everyday things hilariously funny. One of my habits is laughing my head off in public toilets. I seem to think of lots of really funny things. I don't make any noise but I'll come out with a massive grin on my face and there will be a rather unnerved lady stood there looking at me. And on buses too I often see something that I find hilarious.

Luckily my boyfriend has the same sense of humour as me so even if everyone around us is looking at us like we're freaks we still have each other.

I have my own quirky, sarcastic style of humor but I often talk to myself when i'm using it.

you have to remember that people have different senses of humour, like i can make some people laugh really well and others don't. it happens with everyone

If I tell a story in amazing detail, I can have almost any person rolling on the floor. But the only people who laugh REALLY hard (like so hard their sides hurt) at my jokes or even offhand comments are my sister and a few friends at school.

LOL...there SHOULD be a rulebook on laughing, sociality and definitely a field manual to NTs.