Anybody have any Aspie-related NYs Resolutions?

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How dare men indicate that they find you physically attractive and express interest in sex on a dating website!

Sure, not everyone on dating sites is looking for a one night stand.. but face reality here for a moment: of course many people are going to be. That's sort of the nature of dating websites & the express purpose many people use them for.

If you have no interest in sex or relationships, why bother with a dating website vs. a site full of people who are interested in whatever special interest you're partaking in at the time? Seriously. Seems rather counterproductive to go onto a dating website and then complain about getting attention from guys who are physically/sexually interested in you - even IF you're looking for a simpler form of a date, it should be pretty well expected that you're going to get sexual advances from people on a dating site.

I've got one, but I can't put it in to words yet.

I can see it in my mind as one of those balls made of elastic bands, bouncing around in my head.

I'll tell it to you when it makes it into word form.

My main goal is to set up an ASD assessment so I can finally get an answer to the question that has been obsessing me for 2 years.

Wanna get better at overcoming my social anxiety.

I'm also gonna focus all year on my main special interest, RC cars and racing. My goal is to win first place in at least one race in the two classes that I'm gonna be racing in.
Also making a goal to save up to get a 1\5 scale rc car. It's $1,600.

Success #1 - I just published my first book to Kindle! It's really short, I just wrote it to tonight, but I only charged 99 Cents and I think it's worth 99 cents. It's kind of an experiment to get a feel for the process.

I like your responses, look at this diverse group of resolutions here: find a man (yeah that's right bumble, you wait for the RIGHT guy!), serenity, THE KINKS!! !, letting go of mistakes, NONE, no selective mutism, no more psychology hell (good luck with that)! !!, no more fake NTing!! !, car racing, self love, remembering people's names (I need that one too)! !

babybird, I'm really curious now, come back and tell us please!

May we all have a happy and prosperous year!

One resoltution is to try and socialsinze or open up a bit mroe, hwich is one I do every year, wirth a litttle but of sucesss as the yearsss go on.

one resolution is to try to boost my confidence. I have the tendency to be extremely hard on myself for any errors (both real and imagined). Plus my mind conjures up memories of past unpleasant incidents and I beat myself up over those all over again. Plus I have a habit of blaming myself for stuff that isn't my fault. distracting myself works for a while but I need something that will work for longer. If I find it, will advise.

I'm going to be more braver, and by the end of 2014 I hope to have been able to be honest with everyone I meet about me having an ASD.

I'm sick of feeling as though I have to hide it, I've done nothing wrong.

I will accept that routines make my life easier and will not try to break them all the time.

I think your brain is really cool.

I don't know if I have any new-year's resolutions as such, but I do have some philosophies I want to try to live by.

''Better to be safe than sorry'' - only to be used in small situations, like whether to eat something that's a couple of days out of date or not. I hate wasting food, but I also hate food-poisoning, so this saying may help in these sorts of situations.

''I am better than this'' - useful for when I am feeling angry about something and want to react by getting all angry and abusive to myself. I need to start to learn to stop and think ''hold on a minute, I am better than this. I am not some aggressive monster''.

''Things happen'' - a little concise but may sometimes help me deal with an unexpected change of plan, and may help somebody else deal with a sudden change of plan too. This is best used in a situation like if I was waiting for a friend who didn't turn up and texted me saying he/she suddenly can't make it, instead of feeling all dejected and disappointed, it is better to just say ''oh well, things happen, let's meet up another day'', and then the situation is over.

That's a nice one - but it doesn't always come up in conversation - that's mostly why I don't talk about it much. But being comfortable enough to say it when it does is important (if you want people to know).

That's true, I didn't think it through properly. It will be just if it ever does crop up.

Same as always. Try to stay sane and keep going another year.

A modest one, if i do say so myself.

To get to bed at a decent time (no more staying up til 3 AM) and subsequently to get up before noon even on non-school days. I also want to improve my executive functioning skills, starting with pushing myself closer to independence. I'm taking my driving test in February and am trying to force myself to do more things that scare me, like making phone calls. I'm digging myself out of my rut one way or another.

That, or if you're in a situation where you think it's important for the other person to know (ie getting help at work/school, explaining a rapid exit from a party, meltdown, sensory overload, etc.)