What don;t you understand about people?

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Me three. The first I do mainly because I want someone to listen, and then I feel better.

i agree with this completely

I don't understand power-lust, the urge to boss other people around. Whether it's the schlub who is a petty dictator in his house, or the overbearing boss, or the would-be social engineer who dreams of bossing around an entire country. I don't get the appeal.

I have to tell my children what to do or not to do often enough, because they're children and I'm the grownup. But I don't especially enjoy it, and I'll be glad when they're independent adults who don't need me to make decisions for them. I certainly have no desire whatsoever to order other adults around as if they were my children.

Not treating to turn this into a political discussion, it's just a desire I don't understand and probably never will.

I also don't understand what is wrong with wanting to be healthy and why people think my not taking drugs, drinking alcohol (not that alcohol is always unhealthy it just does not agree with me), smoking cigarettes or eating junk/processed foods makes me think I am superior.

I didn't make the choice to give those things up (or not get involved with them in the first place) for my ego, I just wanted to feel well so that I could enjoy life. I wanted energy and vitality. It has nothing to do with ego at all.

Why is the world so ego obsessed? And why does it keep bullying me because it thinks that everything I do is about my ego when it's not. I just wanted to enjoy being alive whilst I had the chance...I don't care about all this ego s**t.

I don't understand living in a society wich claims to value honesty and property - yet having to have passwords and massive security on absolutely everything

I can't turn a corner or go a day without someone trying to lie/cheat or steal from me but they all tell me I have to be perfect in everything I do

I am sick of double standards

Bit OT for the thread, but in case you don't know about it, Norwich Astronomical Society (www.norwichastro.org.uk) at Seething near the Norfolk/Suffolk border is a good place to start with that. We run lectures throughout the winter season for the public that are suitable for beginner astronomers, along with members-only lectures for the more advanced stuff.

Oh and the membership includes a significant minority of people with AS (or borderline AS/NT); some of us are open about being AS and some not.

Oooo that sounds very interesting as I have wanted to take up astronomy for a while now.

I see the website in your text..I will take a look at it.

(I need glasses I think, I missed it on my first read).

Why do I need to remind people to do their jobs? Why can't they be responsible and do what they need to do without me reminding them. People are morons.

I also don't understand this attitude either. Some people will give you a hard time about it and make you feel guilty for not doing them and act like you're a wuss or something. Is this the reason why some teens give into peer pressure and then before they know it, they are addicted. I have even been told all this drug crap is propaganda. Well how do they explain the drug affects then it has done to people and people stealing money and things for drugs? I just think they are trying to get me to do them and make me feel bad for not doing them. It reminds me of elementary school when kids would keep egging me to do something until I gave in and then I get in trouble for it. Well I am not going to give in for drugs and will stay strong.

This is what I find so weird about eating with other people, particularly other women, they act like it is some sort of competition. Like I am trying to show them up by eating less than they do, or by not eating something that they are eating. Like it is some sort of show of superiority. It is absolutely mind boggling.

I don't smoke or drink either, and that usually doesn't come up in conversation with anyone. But I know how some people will take it personally like they think I am judging them just by saying I don't drink.

It's like they automatically compare my choices to their own choices and make some sort of judgment about it, and they assume I'm the one doing it to them, but I'm not! They are just doing it to themselves.

The lying/cheating thing has always befuddled me. As lying/cheating appears to be a normal and acceptable thing to do.

It makes you wonder what goes through their (i.e. NTs) heads. I imagine that it would be a combination of shock, awe and revulsion.

I'll never understand why some people will use the word "Ignorant" when they really mean "Unintelligent".

I don't understand:

1) why they lie.

2) why they don't use logic at all.

3) how they start and manage relationships

I think I do. Words can change their meaning over time. Gay used to mean very happy. It had no homosexual connotations at all.

They do indeed do that! I had a similar issue on a forum board when I posted that I did not want to use Cannabis.

Firstly I was accused of saying that all people who do drugs are bad people when I said no such thing. All I said was that I did not want to use cannabis and yet they added all these judgments to my words that were just not there when I posted them.

And Secondly I received a barrage of attacks from people because I did not want to smoke cannabis where I was called every name under the sun and was accused of thinking I was some how superior.

After that, when it came to the first point, I did start wondering about it...I mean its hardly a good advertisement for drug users when they run around attacking people waging war on them because they don't sing the praises of cannabis is it! They need to think about the impression they are giving out because before that I had not considered how drug use relates to a persons worth or whether it made them good or bad, all I knew was that I didn't like taking drugs myself and that is as far as I had gotten with my thinking other than to conclude it was because a) they did not agree with me and b) that I did not feel they were all that healthy, for my system at least, because they disagree with me.

People keep putting thoughts into my head that are not there naturally.

As too females and competition, I found this:

http://clairelehmann.wordpress.com/2014 ... they-want/

They do seem to have some kind of competitive streak...

Sorry to necro this but I couldn't sleep until I wrote this down.

Humans, I don't understand you. I've tried for years to get y'all, assimilate with y'all, commiserate with y'all but to no avail. I'll be going to my grave not understanding your behaviours at all; that bothers me but I have no choice but to try and accept it. What do I not understand?

1. Violence. Why is it so easy for you people to commit genocide against each other? Doesn't grabbing a child by the legs and slamming her against a tree (like the Khmer Rouge did to save money on bullets) bother you? How is it you were able to convince your youth to strap on a rifle, march into lands containing people they don't know or did nothing to them, and kill them? How does it not bother you to throw your fellow human beings into an arena of lions and tigers which you know will tear those frightened people apart in seconds? What is this fascination with creating bullets that that flare out when they hit their target, causing the exit hole to be 10 times larger than the entry hole? Doesn't it make you gag when you cut people's heads off? Lynch them? Electrocute them? Waterboard them? Burn them at a stake? Cut out their heart while they're still alive to appease some god? What do you gain from hanging, drawing and quartering your fellow man? How come it doesn't cost you sleep to sail to a village, rape the women, set fire to their homes, and kill all the men in sight? Don't these things eat you alive?

2. Religion. This one fascinates me. You pray to a god you don't see yet swear he (or she) exists because all you have to do is look around and you'll see his work. Really? That's all the proof you need? Oh, because it's written in some books that he exists? You do know that those books were written by men just like you, right? Are you telling me that, because it's in writing, it must be true? You really, actually accept that as fact? mystifies me. By the way, your complex rituals perplex me. And it does strike me as odd that you say your religion is all about love for your god and fellow man, yet turn around and rip other people's heads off with impunity. Why do you buy it when a man comes off a mountain and says, "From now on we'll do things this way because God spoke to me," and you say, "Okay, sure. So be it,"? Don't you for a second think he's just making that up to get your money or the prettiest girl around? No? I once saw one of your talk shows with one of your female leaders (Oprah) who said, "I know God exists because I feel him in my heart." Isn't she sure she was just feeling afib or her blood rushing through her ventricles?

3. Littering. Yeah, I don't understand it. I'll walk for miles with an empty soda can or candy wrapper until I find a garbage can yet quite a few of you don't bat a last when flinging cigarette butts and plastic bags to the earth. Mystery to me.

4. Cigarettes. Yep, another activity which perplexes me. I've seen you leave the safety of your jobs and homes to go outside in the middle of the night to smoke, leaving yourself wide open to the crazy man walking down the street. Some of you even tell me smoking is just a habit and you really get nothing from it. Really? I've seen men and women prostitute themselves for a cigarette. Don't you think that's pretty risky behavior for something you get nothing from?

5. Funerals. Someone dies so you dress up in black, pay thousands for a fancy coffin just to throw it in the ground, then stand around and talk about the person. After they're dead. Don't you think it's a little late for that? You don't get paid or become famous for attending so why bother?

6. Weddings. See Funerals above.

7. Parties. See funerals above.

8. Crying. As annoying as this is you do it all the time. What changes when you wail and scream? You'll prevent an execution? You'll bring someone back from the dead? You'll sway your boss to let you stay on for just one more week? You'll convince grandma that she should stick around for another year, or at least till her grandkids start walking?

9. Money. Of course, I'm not talking about money for basic necessities like food and shelter. It just surprises me than when a state or country announces a billion dollar lottery, you line up in droves to buy that ticket that'll make you filthy rich. You know you'll lose half in taxes, right? You know you'll suddenly meet cousins and nephews you never knew existed but they'll come around just for money, right? You know your paranoia just grew by leaps and bounds because you don't know if that sound you're hearing in the middle of the night is just the wind or some burglar breaking in through a basement window, right? You know it'll be impossible to tell your friends from your enemies, right? You know that as soon as you announce you're broke all your "friends" will disappear, right? You know that you can't take one red cent with you when you die, right? You do know that even millionaires go jumping out of windows, right? You do know that as soon as you buy that new car/smartphone/jeans/4K TV it'll go out of style and you'll never keep up, right?

10. Meat eating. Ok. I'm not gonna be a hypocrite here. I've enjoyed eaten meat for years. Recently, though, I got to thinking: who are we to deprive animals their right to life, liberty and happiness? They have families, too. They can love and hate. They can frolic or get scared. They can build, organize, protect, teach, nurture and defend. I suppose, throughout your history, you've demonstrated that you could barely extend those rights to your fellow humans, so I don't expect you'd even give animals that chance. So they can't play guitar or build skyscrapers or write books. So what? How many of us can? I've never seen one group of animals ride into town and massacre all the animals there, but I could be wrong.

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