Lacking Common Sense

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Yes, I have been told I lack common sense. Not sure in what way.

I would have just held it and waited until recess because by then everyone is allowed to leave the class unless the teacher tells an individual who can't.


I have a story in 6th grade. I was in music and I was on my period and then my period got real heavy so I bled through my pad and it got on my underwear and shorts and I asked my teacher if I could use the bathroom and he said no. I just hid in the corner because I was so embarrassed and uncomfortable. Then these three girls in my class took me to the office and were supportive and told me I should have just gone to the bathroom anyway. I didn't even know I could break that rule and just go to the bathroom in that situation. No one ever told me I could do that. Then as an adult I find out from reading comments online on a website about seven year old boy in Texas peeing his pants due to not having tokes to use the restroom, the parents were saying in the comments they just tell their own children to just go if they have to go bad and can't hold it and even people were saying they leave during meetings and stuff just to go because when they gotta go, they gotta go and they can't go on a bathroom schedule because they go anytime in less than an hour or less than two hours so if they go before the meeting starts, they have to go again before it ends. Some people just have bladder problems so that explained the rude behavior I always saw and why people couldn't hold it or try and go before then so they wouldn't have to go later.
But my music teacher found out about my period and felt bad and thought I should have told him but I don't think he realized how embarrassing it was to tell him about my time of the month. I was 12 and not all 12 year olds get their periods so it was embarrassing and a boy in my class found out because he must have saw the blood and he humiliated me in front of the other kids on the playground about it. Luckily other kids never gave me a hard time about it except him. But I guess that was my literal mind that made me not run out of the music room to the restrooms because the rule was no one leaves to use the bathroom unless the teacher says so and you had to ask for permission to use it.

It was a fortunate I had a strong bladder so it was never a problem for me holding it and I waited until I could use the bathroom and would ask when we can use it.

Here's a good example of what common sense is:

My cousin was the Dux of the school. You could hand her a book, test her on it the next day and she'd know it inside out and back to front. That's learned sense.

This smart girl also used to walk around calling everyone a "poo jabba" thinking it was just a cute name until someone pointed out to her what it actually meant. She was very embarrassed.

The point being, she was so smart when it came to learning things but she had no common sense in that she didn't think about things too deeply and/or didn't apply the knowledge she had to work things out.

This same girl needed her mother to tell her how to turn the car's steering wheel to manoeuvre out of a parking spot because she couldn't figure it out. No common sense.

Lovely girl though - heart of gold

It seems like a lot of teachers at my school lack common sense. My psychology teacher had no idea how long assignments were supposed to take, so he always assigned the wrong deadlines. He would give us three days to put together a presentation, two and a half for an independent project, a few months to write a summary on a news article about psychology.

In art class my teacher tells everyone who is working with clay to clean up. This should be all he says, right? Nope, not for him. After he says that he calls everyone who is working with clay by name. What an idiot! I think the people who work with clay know who he's talking about.

I've been told this. I think it's more a matter of your brain just not being wired the same way as most people's, and so the things that seem obvious to you just might not be. I've noticed a lot of us on the spectrum really need to be told EVERYTHING. I guess that's the "wrong planet" effect right there - in this world, there are things that NTs just innately know they should or shouldn't do, so they assume EVERYONE with any sense is born with that knowledge. But we just aren't, because of the internalized nature of our minds.