Aspergers and the 'look'?

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I had to take a class yesterday at work because we're changing computer systems. I knew it was going to be long and boring and I would have no trouble with the change - they're all kind of the same thing. I was right, it was more menu oriented but still you're doing the same thing. I don't know what I was looking like during the class, but our trainer kept asking me if I was all right. I had to force myself to look at her and smile every few minutes to get her to stop asking that. Kind annoying to me. I asked her why she was asking me and she responded, "I read faces."

I have no idea what actually constitutes as the "look" but I notice that a lot of people on the spectrum including myself always seem to stare at a camera. I don't stare in real life most of the time but for some reason I look like a deer in the headlights, and I notice this with other autistics too. But it's not true with all of them. I guess it's that?

Apparently I look stoned in a lot of pictures.

There is no physical look, as there is with Down's Syndrome.

But if you're a guy and you always have a pant leg tucked into a sock, a shirt tail NOT tucked into your pants, and one that IS tucked into your pants, and ofcourse a pocket protector, then yes- folks might say that you 'look like you have aspergers'. And (alas) they might be justified in saying that.

There's a bit of a blank stare to many of us, including my father. It's a lack of expression in the face. That's what they are noticing.

You may have something there .

I do a lot of daydreaming so if I'm in a ( forced) social occasion I bet I do a lot of bank staring across the room / tables ..... especially if the wife is chatting to somebody else and I'm left to fend for myself ..

I did the same in grade school. Got in trouble a lot for daydreaming in class. My dad still does it. I have to say "dad" three times with increasing volume to get him to snap out of it.

I dont think there is any specific look, sounds like some very ignorant people.. However there are forms of body language that many on the spectrum have that may come across as intimidating... One is obviously the resting face look, for some it may come across to others as stay clear of me when infact its not the case.. The other is the stare, ie when you are just looking at someone for intrigue, prolonged visual staring can make people feel uncomfortable or the people around you will alos presume you have an attraction to them when in reality you are momentarily intrigued by their look, hair or clothing style... Also the conversation stare, i have somewhat stopped doing this now as it was pointed out to me, but sometimes when i was in a one on one conversation with someone i would hold eye contact indefinitely and they would suddenly ask why i kept looking into their eye, this always baffled me somewhat as i would respond by that im just concentrating on what you are saying, but apparently this makes people feel uncomfortable, so i tend to consciously look away from time to time, its a little ironic as i dont really like looking directly into people eyes and will often focus on the mouth when talking to someone.

Do you happen to look like Sheldon Cooper or Rainman?