Do you find people have no interest in you?

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You sound like me, I can usually create acquaintances fairly easily especially in areas of special interests, its getting the invite to be social outside of the original place of meeting that almost never happens. It gets very frustrating and depressing that I know and often by chance see people on the street who I know yet I only have a couple of friends, heck the majority don't even try to friend me on Facebook. The people you describe sound like acquaintances to me and I wish I had the answer as to how to improve upon that because many would make perfect friends if given the chance.

People who are unable to relate find me uninteresting or infuriating. And it's ok! I have learned not to talk to uninteresting people. They learn quickly that I am a poor social prospect and move on. It takes me a long time to make friends. I enter (almost) every encounter with no expectation of the other person. I also make no false offerings of interest or sympathy. The absence of neediness and false offerings distills the pool of potential friendships down to an interesting few. Breaking these rules - which I sometimes do - ALWAYS leads to shallow, short lived relationships and hurt feelings. And the few friends I do have? Maybe we don't understand each other all the time but we accept one another completely. Am I using my aspergers as an excuse not to try and is this selfish? I believe not. I have identified the parameters I am able to function within and do so to the best of my ability. Pushing the edges and trying to expand these boundaries is very destructive to my well being. If you have the same difficulty and wish to make more friends I recommend putting yourself in situations where you are forced to meet people. Increased volume equals greater probability you will find people who interest you and who are interested in you.