kirayng wrote:
AH interviewing your parents. Mhmm, well one thing for sure is that they probably can't pass their BS off on professionals as well as they think they can? I mean, it's going to be a red flag if they are openly in denial-- Denial is a defense mechanism, the professionals would be trained to see that and would consider it a negative against your parents, not against you.
My parents deny my autism as well, they even went so far as to pass my neuropsychological evaluation off to their friend the forensic psychologist. Over the past couple of years I just keep doing things and saying things like I always did but now I go 'well since I'm autistic, this is WHY I do blah blah blah' so it forces them in a way (not a good way) to have that dialog with me. Of course I'm obsessed with autism and learning everything I can about it (along with my own pet theories as to why, etc. ) so I try to resist talking about it to my parents as I know it's a special interest rather than what they want to talk about.
I've had several upsetting visits where I've overloaded and yelled at my Mom or Dad, so I'm working very hard at getting them to understand me, though I know I'm tiring I just have to understand, need to know, etc. to the point of $##$%@..
If I may say so, sometimes people just can't accept reality, they don't want to, for some reason. I feel like this is the way it is with my parents. They adopted me, I was always troubled, they agree with all the stuff I point out that's autistic, they want to help....
but they just can't accept that their daughter is autistic. And that's on them. Not on me. So think about that too, I know it's hard tho, really I do. I struggle with this every day, I so wish I could be understood without being thought of as "less than".
Have they ever told you you want to be autisic or that your just misbehaving? Or even mentally ill.
Absolutely. To my biological mother, I was the curse God put on her.
22 Mar 2014, 4:53 pm
