Struggling with partner and her friends.

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You are so like my Aspergers partner it makes me laugh...and I don't say this lightly because I know the hardships this has to bear.

I said to Shaun two days ago 'why are you here' and he said because you never ask anything of me. And that is the truth. I never ask him to like my friends, I never ask him to say 'hello'. I never put anything on him.

I love him....why would I put him in this position.

He loves me...How do I know ...because he tells me and he is Aspergers and that is his truth.

The fact that you think her friends are creeps makes me wonder what the two of you have in common. I trust your assessment of them. I wonder if she was inviting more respectable people over if you wouldn't be more apt to socialize. And why, knowing you are an Aspie and that socializing stresses you out, would she let random people come over? It would be more respectful of you for there to be a house rule that she only have people over who are well known to you, and only if they called first or were invited over. Her random friends she could meet at a cafe, or their home, assuming they have one. It seems like she's setting you up to fail socially. Either she's well-intentioned, or she's doing it on purpose. Is she passive-aggressive? Do you notice a pattern of when these people happen to drop by? Is it when she is mad at you for not giving her enough attention?