Do you have any (real) friends?

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I had loads as a teenager.

even the roughest kids in the area wanted to spend time with me for some reason, it still perplexes me to this day why they would care.

a couple even bothered to look me up on facebook even though I hadn't seen them for years.

heres an example .


I'm not exaggerating when I say I used to live in a rough area and hung out with all the cool rough people



I should have asked what he did but I never bothered replying and the convo died there.

I'm so lucky I never ended up in prison when I was a teenager, there's no way I would cope inside unless people I knew were already in the same prison I went to.

I've never been hard as I'd imagine most autistic people aren't and being so quiet can you imagine prison life for someone like us?

Man....that's fascinating! I'm glad you took the high road. It's a tribute to you, reall

Yeah, friends are like potatoes. If you eat them, they die.

Thanks for the responses and I feel like I may be lonely for most of my life, which is kind of sad I consider myself to be introverted but there are times where I do make concentrated efforts to befriend others and try to expand my network of people I know.

The sad thing is in most cases, the people I want to be friends are only "seasonal" which means they are friends only when there are things common, but when they move to a different place or start a new life somewhere else, almost all connections have been severed

There's a few people I'm fairly close to in my church, but only two people have gotten super-close to me emotionally: my Mom and my ex-girlfriend, Michelle. The latter is currently indifferent to me; I don't know what would become of me if something happened to my mother.

One best friend, and one that I am close to in my church.

I have had a lot of problems with this too. I have a similar idea of friendship as you seem to, but I have no one in my life who truly fits the bill. I often question whether my boyfriend even does, although we have been together for years. I just find it really difficult to connect with people, although I deeply want to. I can never keep friends and when I seem to make them, I just don't know how to make the friendship move on past being somewhat superficial. In short: it sucks.

Based on your description, I do have real friends.

I only have a real friend online I have been talking to for ten years now. We never met because he lives all the way in the midwest. I also have my husband.

No friends or acquaintances except for family.

I had friends until my late 20's. None really since then. It gets harder to care or try to make friends as I get older.

I have three real friends that I'm really close to. The rest of the people that I talk to are acquaintances.

By your definition, no.

My best friend is... really kind of a douche bag by most people's standards. Yesterday I told him about how I'm starting up a small computer tech business for virus removal, tune ups, and networking. He immediately told me that I was doomed to fail because people can just run Microsoft Security Essentials making me useless. He's full of crap. Computers slow down without cache clean outs, bloatware removal, etc. He won't ever accept that he's wrong though. He just always shoots me down when I have something good happen / become... like ambitious. He thinks I'm stupid because I was home schooled and didn't get a public school education. I passed the GED with a perfect score in all but Reading which was just one point shy of a perfect score .

I guess there's another guy who I consider a friend, but we seldom talk or do anything together *shrug*.

I don't really care much to be honest. I enjoy being by myself.

I don't have any friends or acquaintances. Not real life or online. I'm kinda amazed I still haven't lost it yet. The though does scare me a bit.

I honestly don't even think I could get friends now because of so much time alone, you do get damaged I fear.

I can totally relate. More than any of the other posts on this thread, yours resonates with me. I too don't have any friends or acquaintances. But I've been working on it with therapist. I've had some other more serious issues that I had to work on before tackling the social problems that I have but I truly believe it is never too late to change. I am a decade older than you and I know what you're saying about isolation "snowballing". I told my therapist today, I'm paraphrasing, I feel like I've stagnated and atrophied so much over the years that I can't possibly have anything in common with people in my age group. But he and I talked about all of the positive changes that I've made over the last couple of years and I reminded myself that change is incremental, if you want to turn yourself around overnight, you are setting yourself up for failure.

My advice to you loner- even if it takes you a year or two, find someone who can help you change. I literally searched for over two years but I didn't give up and that is something I can pride myself on today. There are times, like today, when I feel like my social challenges feel insurmountable. But that is the negative thinking that helped me justify my isolation. Maybe I will never have friends. Maybe I will never learn to connect with people. Maybe I will never experienced that intrinsic pleasure that most humans seem to experience just from social contact. But I sure as hell won't go back to where I was a few years ago, I will keep pushing forward. As I said earlier, I have over a decade on you. Don't be where I am in 10 years, seek and create your change now. Don't put off till tomorrow. Create the kind of life that you want to live now, because life really is too short.

I can totally relate to you. I was pretty lonely during my 2nd and 3rd years of college and moreso, in my 4th year until I went out a bit more. Even then, I only had acquaintances, not really close friends. After graduating from college, I pretty much lead a pretty lonely life, I mean I tried to make new friends but nothing amazing ever came about

As a result of being alone so long, I did in fact feel like there was something empty in my life, and what filled that void was just ambition and power hunting. (being good at everything I could to the best I could be, while not necessarily bad, I do prefer to enjoy the things that most everyday people do.)