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03 May 2014, 12:28 pm

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Is it your ex who is crazy, or is it you?

If we knew you as well as he does, and we heard you claim that you're 'no longer autistic" we might laugh too.

Or not. Depends.

I know its expensive, but you oughta get reassessed. Drop the other shoe already and get this over with. Find out if you're autistic or not.

My ex-boyfriend didn't actually know me that well. That is part of the reason why he broke up with me. I never attracted to him, so I didn't gave him that much affection. I only entered the relationship because I wanted to prove to myself that I like guys and I wanted the social benefits of having a boyfriend. I know that sounds crazy, but I was fourteen. Aren't all fourteen year olds a bit crazy?


Well I started dating my girlfriend when I was 14, but we aren't together anymore, so maybe...

People can often say things they don't intend. My neurotypical friends know I'm autistic and there are some things that they can't understand. I'm assuming your ex is neurotypical, so...

He isn't autistic, but he isn't really NT. He has a serious learning disability(I don't know what it is.) He could barely read when we were dating. That meant that I couldn't really text him. He also will never be able to live alone because of his learning diasability.


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03 May 2014, 2:03 pm

DevilKisses wrote:
BeggingTurtle wrote:
DevilKisses wrote:
naturalplastic wrote:
Is it your ex who is crazy, or is it you?

If we knew you as well as he does, and we heard you claim that you're 'no longer autistic" we might laugh too.

Or not. Depends.

I know its expensive, but you oughta get reassessed. Drop the other shoe already and get this over with. Find out if you're autistic or not.

My ex-boyfriend didn't actually know me that well. That is part of the reason why he broke up with me. I never attracted to him, so I didn't gave him that much affection. I only entered the relationship because I wanted to prove to myself that I like guys and I wanted the social benefits of having a boyfriend. I know that sounds crazy, but I was fourteen. Aren't all fourteen year olds a bit crazy?


Well I started dating my girlfriend when I was 14, but we aren't together anymore, so maybe...

People can often say things they don't intend. My neurotypical friends know I'm autistic and there are some things that they can't understand. I'm assuming your ex is neurotypical, so...

He isn't autistic, but he isn't really NT. He has a serious learning disability(I don't know what it is.) He could barely read when we were dating. That meant that I couldn't really text him. He also will never be able to live alone because of his learning diasability.


I had assumed the opposite -that he was not NT, but a fellow autie. Hense the "we [fill in the blank]s oughta to stick together" remark.

But I did wonder why an autistic would call HIMSELF a 'ret*d' because thats such a hot button word among autistics. But apparently he is not autistic, but is learning disabled. So in the realm of book-learning I guess he would be 'delayed' compared to most.But still..to call yourself that? Maybe he IS kinda crazy.



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03 May 2014, 2:25 pm

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I had assumed the opposite -that he was not NT, but a fellow autie. Hense the "we [fill in the blank]s oughta to stick together" remark.

But I did wonder why an autistic would call HIMSELF a 'ret*d' because thats such a hot button word among autistics. But apparently he is not autistic, but is learning disabled. So in the realm of book-learning I guess he would be 'delayed' compared to most.But still..to call yourself that? Maybe he IS kinda crazy.

He definitely isn't right in the head. When I was trying to come out to him he just laughed at me and made a disgusting homophobic joke about me. Even another guy with a similar learning disability thinks he's weird.


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03 May 2014, 4:48 pm

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I was just talking to my ex-boyfriend today. I was ranting about school and he mentioned that people don't treat disabled people well enough.

I told him that I don't really consider myself disabled anymore. He just laughed at me and said that I'm autistic. I told him that I don't consider myself autistic anymore. He laughed even harder.

I told him that no diagnosis is 100% accurate. He agreed with me but pointed out my social problems. I just told him that I'm a socially isolated nerd. He said that 70% of nerds are autistic. I told him that's a bunch of bs.

He disagreed. He said that all those nerds are good at what they do because of focus. I told him that I have no focus and ADHD.

He said that "Us ret*ds need to stick together," I told him that I just need to get into the real world.


Doesn't really sound crazy to me, seems more like a douchebag with no clue of disorders. Which sadly isn't all that uncommon.



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03 May 2014, 8:30 pm

DevilKisses wrote:
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I had assumed the opposite -that he was not NT, but a fellow autie. Hense the "we [fill in the blank]s oughta to stick together" remark.

But I did wonder why an autistic would call HIMSELF a 'ret*d' because thats such a hot button word among autistics. But apparently he is not autistic, but is learning disabled. So in the realm of book-learning I guess he would be 'delayed' compared to most.But still..to call yourself that? Maybe he IS kinda crazy.

He definitely isn't right in the head. When I was trying to come out to him he just laughed at me and made a disgusting homophobic joke about me. Even another guy with a similar learning disability thinks he's weird.


I'd just avoid him personally.. man.. I couldn't even bear being around someone like that.



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04 May 2014, 9:05 am

Nope, definitely not crazy, just pretty unlikable.