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08 May 2014, 4:05 am

Also I think (and correct me if I'm wrong) Some people are allowed to be children for longer. That doesn't mean that they aren't capable of taking responsibility for themselves, it just means that they have never had to.

I've known 12 year olds who take on the responsibility of an adult, by looking after younger siblings because their parents are absent.

Then to the other extreme I've seen women in their 20's who haven't got a clue about what it is to be an adult.

For me, I ran away from becoming an adult for a very long time, until one day I ran right into having to become an adult.

If you get my drift.

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08 May 2014, 5:46 am

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I see an adult. Intellectually disabled, but an adult. For example, she liked coffee, just like I do. And one of the two times someone saw her, she was sitting on a curb and petting a cat, the way any cat-loving adult might do if a cat greeted them, not the way a toddler might grab at the cat and scream "Kitty!" or something like that. I suppose she was probably diagnosed with severe/profound intellectual disability... But she wasn't a toddler. She was a grown woman.

I saw her like this, too.

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08 May 2014, 2:49 pm

It have been thought for gifted kids, butit concern autism and mental retardation too.

http://giftedkids.about.com/od/glossary/g/asynchronous.htm

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08 May 2014, 3:26 pm

Tollorin wrote:

It have been thought for gifted kids, butit concern autism and mental retardation too.

http://giftedkids.about.com/od/glossary/g/asynchronous.htm

'mental retardation' hasnt been a valid diagnosis for an entire year now and it has led to years of prejudice,stereotyping and misunderstanding of the disability,its also dehumanising and unfair to those of us who come under that label, the DSM calls it intelectual disability and the ICD calls it learning disability.
we are adults with ID,we have spent our child,teen and adult years living difficult lives,we earned our right to be called adults and not to be treated like we have the brains of children.

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08 May 2014, 3:27 pm

KingdomOfRats wrote:

Tollorin wrote:

It have been thought for gifted kids, butit concern autism and mental retardation too.

http://giftedkids.about.com/od/glossary/g/asynchronous.htm

Sorry, I didn't knew what term to use.

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08 May 2014, 3:42 pm

Yes.

Some people have severe handicaps that keep them at a maturity level of x age regardless of their chronological age.

Also, as per "The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome," it's said that Aspies have an emotional age of approximately 2/3rds of their chronological age - and I tend to agree with that.

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08 May 2014, 3:46 pm

Tollorin wrote:

KingdomOfRats wrote:

Tollorin wrote:

It have been thought for gifted kids, butit concern autism and mental retardation too.

http://giftedkids.about.com/od/glossary/g/asynchronous.htm

Sorry, I didn't knew what term to use.

hi tollorin,
no need to apologise,its still in a lot of peoples language as not all americans/ countries that relie on the DSM realised the label was dumped.

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08 May 2014, 9:36 pm

I think it's possible but overused. There are certain people that really don't not function as someone their age should.

It's sort of like how I suspect ADHD is real but overused for children's diagnoses.

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08 May 2014, 9:42 pm

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So that means I probably have the emotional maturity of a typical 13-year-old then. I guess that explains a few things...

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08 May 2014, 9:48 pm

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goldfish21 wrote:

So that means I probably have the emotional maturity of a typical 13-year-old then. I guess that explains a few things...

Heh, when I read that about a year and a half ago at approx 30 years of age, it did explain a few things... but I made a bit of a joke of it and told a friend of mine: "yay, I'm 20!

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08 May 2014, 10:01 pm

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I guess I'm emotionally a 12 year old by that standard. I don't think I'm emotionally 12, I think I'm emotional about 15. I guess that's the result of my autistic symptoms being cured.

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08 May 2014, 11:48 pm

I dunno, I think I'm pretty emotionally immature and am experiencing things and thoughts that other people experience at much younger ages.

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09 May 2014, 12:15 am

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goldfish21 wrote:

I guess I'm emotionally a 12 year old by that standard. I don't think I'm emotionally 12, I think I'm emotional about 15. I guess that's the result of my autistic symptoms being cured.

I don't even know how to do the math. I wonder what emotional age that puts me at if my chronicle age is 28. Anyone know?

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09 May 2014, 12:43 am

League_Girl wrote:

DevilKisses wrote:

goldfish21 wrote:

I guess I'm emotionally a 12 year old by that standard. I don't think I'm emotionally 12, I think I'm emotional about 15. I guess that's the result of my autistic symptoms being cured.

I don't even know how to do the math. I wonder what emotional age that puts me at if my chronicle age is 28. Anyone know?

Between 18 and 19 (2/3 X 28 )...if this approximation is at all accurate.

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