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21 May 2014, 2:19 pm

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Children of that age are extremely accepting of all adult behaviour - there is no need to explain, the children will learn from experience.


AWOW: Once your child starts going to school. She may start to succumb to peer pressure and rebel ageist you. Your child my start to hate you and feel ashamed and embarrassed to be around you for your autistic treats.


I can remember thinking as a kid being so glad I am not Jewish or black because of all the racism even though I had never witnessed it, only heard about it and saw it in the media. Then I remember fearing being a lesbian because of all the homophobia. Kids always made it out to be a bad thing when they would mention about someone being gay or even mention gayness. I don't think kids even need to be taught racism or homophobia, they pickup on it from school if they are surrounded by other kids who are. Kids can also be made to feel ashamed of themselves too and about their parents if their parent has a disability.


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21 May 2014, 2:38 pm

LupaLuna wrote:
Once your child starts going to school. She may start to succumb to peer pressure and rebel ageist you. Your child my start to hate you and feel ashamed and embarrassed to be around you for your autistic traits.


I understand what you say. There is also the possibility that the children of NT parents will begin to question the conventional attitudes of their NT parents.

Luckily, all my children were reasonably bright, and gained respect from their peers. I was an active parent-helper, and there were definitely some children who were poorly served by their parents.



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21 May 2014, 2:52 pm

League_Girl wrote:
LupaLuna wrote:
MrGrumpy wrote:
Children of that age are extremely accepting of all adult behaviour - there is no need to explain, the children will learn from experience.


AWOW: Once your child starts going to school. She may start to succumb to peer pressure and rebel ageist you. Your child my start to hate you and feel ashamed and embarrassed to be around you for your autistic treats.


I can remember thinking as a kid being so glad I am not Jewish or black because of all the racism even though I had never witnessed it, only heard about it and saw it in the media. Then I remember fearing being a lesbian because of all the homophobia. Kids always made it out to be a bad thing when they would mention about someone being gay or even mention gayness. I don't think kids even need to be taught racism or homophobia, they pickup on it from school if they are surrounded by other kids who are. Kids can also be made to feel ashamed of themselves too and about their parents if their parent has a disability.


God! tell me about it. I grew up in the 1980 when gay bashing was at it prime. that's when AIDS(now called HIV.) came out and all it took was a scientist to make a false statement that AIDS was cause my the interaction of semen and fecal matter and that pretty much push the anti-gay movement into overdrive. it was religiously indoctrinated into me that gays are bad people and where spreading a incurable disease around that if you caught it, it would mean dying a horrible death.



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21 May 2014, 3:03 pm

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Once your child starts going to school. She may start to succumb to peer pressure and rebel ageist you. Your child my start to hate you and feel ashamed and embarrassed to be around you for your autistic traits.


I understand what you say. There is also the possibility that the children of NT parents will begin to question the conventional attitudes of their NT parents.

Luckily, all my children were reasonably bright, and gained respect from their peers. I was an active parent-helper, and there were definitely some children who were poorly served by their parents.


I have been doing counseling work for other aspie adults and there is an aspie couple in which there kid was born NT and I've watched that kid come up to his parents and say " Why do you act like f**king ret*ds in front of my friends, M friends parents don't act like that." and the lecturing go on from there. Sadly, there at a loss as to what to say to him.



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21 May 2014, 3:34 pm

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I have been doing counseling work for other aspie adults and there is an aspie couple in which there kid was born NT and I've watched that kid come up to his parents and say " Why do you act like f**king ret*ds in front of my friends, M friends parents don't act like that." and the lecturing go on from there. Sadly, there at a loss as to what to say to him.

That kid has not been well brought up and probably deserves a slap. Child neglect is not a characteristic of asperger-parenting.



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21 May 2014, 4:06 pm

MrGrumpy wrote:
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I have been doing counseling work for other aspie adults and there is an aspie couple in which there kid was born NT and I've watched that kid come up to his parents and say " Why do you act like f**king ret*ds in front of my friends, M friends parents don't act like that." and the lecturing go on from there. Sadly, there at a loss as to what to say to him.

That kid has not been well brought up and probably deserves a slap. Child neglect is not a characteristic of asperger-parenting.


Actually, they aren't neglecting thair child. Just like me. they too where wrongfully disciplined when they where growing up and we don't know really how to discipline the child because the child is NT and we are aspies. The question is. how do we discipline this child without aspie/NT discrimination coming into play. just like are NT parents didn't know how to discipline us properly. How do we know how to discipline this child properly?



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21 May 2014, 4:32 pm

LupaLuna wrote:
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I have been doing counseling work for other aspie adults and there is an aspie couple in which there kid was born NT and I've watched that kid come up to his parents and say " Why do you act like f**king ret*ds in front of my friends, M friends parents don't act like that." and the lecturing go on from there. Sadly, there at a loss as to what to say to him.

That kid has not been well brought up and probably deserves a slap. Child neglect is not a characteristic of asperger-parenting.


Actually, they aren't neglecting thair child. Just like me. they too where wrongfully disciplined when they where growing up and we don't know really how to discipline the child because the child is NT and we are aspies. The question is. how do we discipline this child without aspie/NT discrimination coming into play. just like are NT parents didn't know how to discipline us properly. How do we know how to discipline this child properly?


I didn't know there was a proper way of disciplining an NT child if you're aspie. There are many ways to discipline a child and parenting books and magazines and online stuff covers it. Even NT parents don't always know what to do with their NT kids so they get advice for it. Those aspie parents should consult reading about parenting or look it up online.


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21 May 2014, 6:21 pm

League_Girl wrote:
LupaLuna wrote:
MrGrumpy wrote:
LupaLuna wrote:
I have been doing counseling work for other aspie adults and there is an aspie couple in which there kid was born NT and I've watched that kid come up to his parents and say " Why do you act like f**king ret*ds in front of my friends, M friends parents don't act like that." and the lecturing go on from there. Sadly, there at a loss as to what to say to him.

That kid has not been well brought up and probably deserves a slap. Child neglect is not a characteristic of asperger-parenting.


Actually, they aren't neglecting thair child. Just like me. they too where wrongfully disciplined when they where growing up and we don't know really how to discipline the child because the child is NT and we are aspies. The question is. how do we discipline this child without aspie/NT discrimination coming into play. just like are NT parents didn't know how to discipline us properly. How do we know how to discipline this child properly?


I didn't know there was a proper way of disciplining an NT child if you're aspie. There are many ways to discipline a child and parenting books and magazines and online stuff covers it. Even NT parents don't always know what to do with their NT kids so they get advice for it. Those aspie parents should consult reading about parenting or look it up online.


They do discipline there child under normal conditions, It's just when the discipline might involve any potential aspie/NT discrimination is what they are concerned about. Under such circumstances, they forgo taking any disciplinary action to avoid possibly giving the wrong message to there son.



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21 May 2014, 11:57 pm

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22 May 2014, 12:50 am

I don't think I could. All I would say to a child that age is that everybody is different and to treat others the way you want to be treated.



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22 May 2014, 2:57 am

while we were growing up my cousin just said to other little kids that my mind worked differently from other people. and that i liked to play my own games, because back then i'd do a lot of visual stimming like watching wheels on toys spin and stuff like that.