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24 Feb 2007, 12:04 pm

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(hmmm) I've not been good with this from the time I was a small child even today I'm not good at is. Yes, I may have to wear glasses but, this is not the reason for me not being able to read the emotional content within another's eyes unless it happens to be anger. Nowadays, If I feel I'm not able to decipher the emotional code through another's eyes I'll sincerely do my best to politely ask what someone is thinking even if such makes me appear stupid for, I could care less as, I would rather know than not know.


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Well, it's not so much the emotional content of the eyes that i am having trouble with. I did well on the meaning in the eyes test, getting 32 out of 36. It's the signaling that i don't understand. Like when someone shoots you a meaningful look expecting you to understand what that signal means.


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24 Feb 2007, 12:30 pm

My ex was aspergers as well, and one thing I do remember is that we were always asking each other what the other was thinking lol as clearly, neither of us could tell and neither of us volunteered the information. That is quite funny to look back on.



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24 Feb 2007, 12:34 pm

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My ex was aspergers as well, and one thing I do remember is that we were always asking each other what the other was thinking lol as clearly, neither of us could tell and neither of us volunteered the information. That is quite funny to look back on.


LOL me and my boyfriend are always asking each other this. Typical conversation will go like this:
me: "What?"
him: "Nothing"
or the other way around lol


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24 Feb 2007, 4:25 pm

jnet wrote:
Graelwyn wrote:
My ex was aspergers as well, and one thing I do remember is that we were always asking each other what the other was thinking lol as clearly, neither of us could tell and neither of us volunteered the information. That is quite funny to look back on.


LOL me and my boyfriend are always asking each other this. Typical conversation will go like this:
me: "What?"
him: "Nothing"
or the other way around lol


LOL

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24 Feb 2007, 4:42 pm

I should try the Baron-Cohen test with the eye photos, but I think I'd do relatively well. I don't have much trouble discerning emotions from the way people's eyes look. What I do have trouble with is actually looking people in the eye (I guess it has a lot to do with distractibility, shyness, being easily embarrassed, and also dislike of certain persons).

When it comes to figuring out what people mean, it looks like I have most problems with the pragmatic aspect of speech. I keep missing out on a lot of the subtext without even realizing that I may not be "getting" everything. It applies not only to real life, but also to movies and the like. There's a friend of mine who keeps telling me that I'm all but blind in this respect and never notice anything, unless I watch the movie many times over and someone gives me extended explanations as to what most of it is about.



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24 Feb 2007, 4:57 pm

I'm like that with movies and in real life. I never get subcontexts either.



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24 Feb 2007, 6:22 pm

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Until I learned about AS, I never even realized I had a problem at making eye contact. Just recently I have been playing basketball at a facility I haven't been to as a kid, and it's the same guy working there that always was when I was a kid (at least 10 years ago), yet when I look back on this period of my life I find I don't even really remember any specific events being there.

But anyhow, now that I realize that this has always been a problem for me, I am practicing making eye contact people and I am getting better with it. However, I do find sometimes it can be "scary" to look into somebody's eyes, I don't know how to explain it, I just feel uneasy.

I don't bother trying to figure out the meaning of the eyes. I know that not everybody that looks at me is being negative, it's just difficult for some reason to push that idea out of my head. I would suggest that you don't bother guessing, cause maybe you'll be right, but more often than not you'll make a situation more awkward by taking an incorrect stab. Just my thoughts...

Sorta like that. But I don't have that much of a problem with eye contact so much as reading it. I can usually read basic things like happiness and enjoyment. Though anger, especially if the person is trying to hide it, is a little harder. It's still worth a try though, it's the only way you can truly learn to tell. Even if it does get you into some tricky situations.



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24 Feb 2007, 7:32 pm

I don't think you can tell what someone is thinking when they make eye contact. If that were true, you could read peoples' minds. She probably said "What are you talking about?" because it was awkward and she knows that you can't read minds. Besides, eye contact naturally means a threat; when you speak while making eye-contact, it is usually completely random to the person you are talking to. They may say, "That was random!"


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26 Feb 2007, 9:55 am

I've always thought of myself as hypersensitive to the mental states of other people, but whether that's true or not I'll probably never know. For example, watching David Letterman interview an actor, most people are paying attention to the jokes, and I'm thinking about how he seems to really not like the actor.