Curious about a conversation I had today

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I guess a good way for me to summarize and kind of explain it is:

You, meaning that person and people like that person, are having a conversation with me that you initiated without invitation, which is actually fine with me, about my condition and you are asking me questions to further your cause about my condition, which you claim is to benefit me and those like me, and yet you have no interest in anything that I or those like me have to say or how we think or feel about our condition. The only interest you have is in how I can help further your agenda to deal with a condition that I have which you have decided, with no understanding or input from people like me, that you think is a bad thing to have. And yes, there are plenty of us who would rather not have it but you are making this decision with no desire to have our input on it. You make me feel completely invisible and like I, as a person, don't matter at all except to help you with your agenda to figure out how to prevent a condition that I have. And you don't care that I may not want my condition gotten rid of.

I think that is what I was feeling and why I had feelings of anger and discomfort.

Thank you for giving me a chance to try to explain better, Skibum!

I like coming on WR, people are sometimes a lot more patient with me trying to communicate here. So I appreciate that, a lot.

I was thinking about this a little more and it is hard to clearly explain what is going wrong with someone whom on one level wants to help.

I guess in one word it is dehumanization, which some have already mentioned.

There is also a tendency for NTs, once they know you have ASD to classify you as somewhat mentally incompetent and not value your opinion.

In the example Skibum gave, to the teacher, autistics were defective humans off the assembly line. The solution to her was to fix the assembly line. There was nothing much to be done with or learned from the defective humans.

Clinical analysis has its place, but please be honest and tactful enough to call it what it is and ask for volunteers or pay people to come in and be analyzed for research. To treat people in public or social situations like this is very demeaning.

We are just as human as they, with feelings, often raw from repeated injury, and in many if not most things just as competent, and perhaps even sharper in certain areas.

I forgot to say Hi, Skibum!

I thought of another interpretation. The person is on the spectrum, is embarrassed about it and wants a cure for themselves. The person clearly did not seem to understand that it was possible that another person had different feeling, only focused on a narrow part of autism and not the big picture.

I still think the most likely option is the person is just rude and sees you/us a lesser then "normal" people.

I think you eventually reacted the way I would have. Confusion about emotions and delayed emotions is common with me.

I still think the guy has to be educated.

I guess what I'm advocating is for people to channel their anger toward educating ignorant people, rather than bemoaning their ignorance.

To put it lightly, what a **********

I would feel angry too skibum, I would probably be livid and I might have actually told the guy off if I could have found the words to do it. But I imagine it would stun me too much to even know what to say. People like that don't want to listen anyway, what a jerk.