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02 Jul 2014, 3:42 pm

I don't feel anything either, like CWA. When my grandfather died, and also when my other grandfather died, I was like "ok then. What do I do now?" and when I hear about apparently horrible / awful murders or deaths from other people or the media, no matter how bad they are, I just sit there blankly and say "what am I supposed to say or do now?"

Due to my diagnoses, I find it hard to feel emotions in most situations.

The girls at school (unfortunately I went to a girls school - I am female - but I get along better with males) used to think I was a "freak" for reading "Atlas of Trauma Injuries" or "Forensic Pathology" while eating my lunch lol.

I find murders interesting tbh. I often research the circumstances leading up to the death and I think about the forensic psychology / forensic pathology side of it. Yet again, it's all science for me.

I remember coming across a dead fox on the street. The other people on that street were staring and pointing at me....because I was using a stick to find out what organs were ruptured and what direction the car had hit it (obviously I wouldn't touch, or go too near, the fox, due to infection risk).

I often wish I were able socially to do a medical degree, because then I would be able to specialise in Forensic Pathology.

Death can be interesting from a purely scientific point of view.


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02 Jul 2014, 4:56 pm

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YEah. I just don't care.

Sorry.

Friends... don't care. Coworker... nope. Grandpa... nope. Grandma.... nope. Uncle... not really. Aunt... just some guilt, no grief there. PEts? Depends on the pet. When I do grieve a pet it's an appropriate amount. The only death that has ever kicked my butt was my mom. That hit me really hard and it took me years to get over it.

Once I noticed my some what "1" "0" response to deaths I started looking at my whole extended family to try to determine who I'll need to fake tears for. In retrospect, I should have faked them for my aunt. Even my husband was like "S%$# bi%$# heart of ice!"... because he asked and I was brutally honest that I didn't really care and was annoyed that I had to travel so far for the funeral. She knew too... hence the guilt.. she called me the day before she passed away. She could tell. So she proceeded to just lay out what she wanted, very business like. I felt guilty given the fact that I'm her closest family and when she told me what was going on I just said "oh... sorry?" . But it was too late, I'd tipped my hand and she'd seen it, too late to bluff.

Unlike the other posters... I'm not claiming delayed feelings. Or misidentified feelings. I'm going to call a spade a spade here and say in these cases I just don't have them. It's ok. I'm ok with who I am.
That is who you are and there is nothing wrong with that. If you don't feel that particular feeling than you don't feel it. That's all there is to it. I think your husband should try to understand that you can't force yourself to feel something that your body or your brain just does not feel. That is not fair. You did not deliberately choose not to feel it, it's just something that you can't feel. And whether you feel it or not. I don't think that has any bearing on how much you cared for the person while she was alive. I don't think you should have to bluff it either. I don't think you should say you don't care in a calloused way while others are in the middle of their grief but I think you should always be honest and just say that you don't feel the same way they feel and that you are not affected by death like they are.


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02 Jul 2014, 5:02 pm

SteelMaiden wrote:
I don't feel anything either, like CWA. When my grandfather died, and also when my other grandfather died, I was like "ok then. What do I do now?" and when I hear about apparently horrible / awful murders or deaths from other people or the media, no matter how bad they are, I just sit there blankly and say "what am I supposed to say or do now?"

Due to my diagnoses, I find it hard to feel emotions in most situations.

The girls at school (unfortunately I went to a girls school - I am female - but I get along better with males) used to think I was a "freak" for reading "Atlas of Trauma Injuries" or "Forensic Pathology" while eating my lunch lol.

I find murders interesting tbh. I often research the circumstances leading up to the death and I think about the forensic psychology / forensic pathology side of it. Yet again, it's all science for me.

I remember coming across a dead fox on the street. The other people on that street were staring and pointing at me....because I was using a stick to find out what organs were ruptured and what direction the car had hit it (obviously I wouldn't touch, or go too near, the fox, due to infection risk).

I often wish I were able socially to do a medical degree, because then I would be able to specialise in Forensic Pathology.

Death can be interesting from a purely scientific point of view.
You would be a fantastic forensic pathologist. Perhaps there is a way for you to get a degree with special ed or online. Sounds like a profession you could really enjoy as well. And it pays well.


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03 Jul 2014, 11:32 am

Thanks ^

I'll look into career / education path to get into forensic pathology. I find the whole area extremely absorbing and fascinating. Also I don't get the emotional issues which helps.


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