Specific Things you like about Aspergers

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Since someone with Asperger's seems to be neurologically programmed to not easily pick up non verbal communication - they seem to also be less likely to make assumptions especially assumptions about other people and to read things into a situation or a person that may or may not be there.

If I have one major irritant with the world of psychiatrist, psychologist and therapist is that many, but not all of them have a tendency to make assumptions. The same mechanism that might restrict our ability to understand nonverbal communication - seems to also restrict our ability to assume.

Wow, lots of great observations that hit home. In my own words:

1. That rarely a single day goes by where I don't discover some new amazing pattern in the way the world works.
2. Being able to see humans and human cultures from a less anthropocentric perspective, where all living creatures have a place, and where humans are not perceived as the pinnacle of evolution. Neurotypical people tend to suffer from Very Important Person (VIP) syndrome. Am glad not to be afflicted by that disorder.
3. Being able to easily recognise and connect with other neurodiverse and hypersensitive people who actually think before they talk or write.

I really like how I have a different perspective than everyone else (in a small town) around me. I like how I think differently than everyone else. I am not part of the hive mind and see memes for what they are. Everything that I used to think kept me away from all the NT folks is actually what I have come to value and appreciate.

I enjoy the level of focus it provides on things I find interesting, such as Ancient History, or the works of Friedrich Nietzsche. It also makes me happy that conformity has never been a priority, and that I am who I am, because that's who I want to be, not because I think that's how I should be.

This isn't to say it (AS) hasn't caused me issues. It has. But it has it's advantages. It's just trying to see it butter side up.

Something brought up in the thread, not mentioned in my original post, is the satisfaction that comes from thinking for yourself and not running with the herd. I personally find my lack of concern for fulfilling societal expectations to be a HUGE saver of both time and money, as well as a major quality of life booster.

Here's some of the things I have managed to avoid through thinking for myself:

Going to College (I can just learn on my own through internet and reading books).

Buying stuff I don't need (Apple can look elsewhere for profits. I don't need to be able to connect to the internet wherever I go).

Using soap (Water and scrubbing are sufficient to remove dirt and bacteria from the skin).

Moving out (I have nothing to prove by living on my own. I am perfectly happy staying with my parents and saving money).

Getting married (I assume no explanation is needed here).

Attentiveness
Knowledge
Independence
Compassion for the have-nots

While it also has a downside, I kind of like the "outsider's perspective" that my autism gives me. I also think that it's boosted my sympathy and logic.

I didn't realise there was a syndrome that was responsible for me being different until I was diagnosed. All I know is I've always been different to other people. I guess in that way, Asperger's is responsible for me being different and that's a good thing. I like being different.

Having Asperger's gives me the ability to do so many cool things. My brain works differently to those around me and I can really blow their socks of with some of the ideas/solutions I come up with for solving problems.

I like that my default seems to be honesty and sincerity, that it isn't hard for me to be either when so many people seem lost on a tangent of insincerity, with a disposition to lie or veil even fundamental things. These are aspects I've come to value more than ever. I like thinking "lo, an interesting person" whenever I hear of a fellow sperg. There's a sense of shared life experience with pretty much anyone on the spectrum and although I can hardly relate to anybody, knowing someone else has the disorder puts me off the mark with them. This happens even if I just get aspie-dar from somebody I briefly meet. Whereas perhaps neurotypicals might see us as flat I see autistic traits as evidence somebody has emotional depth. There's certainly a slight communion even if I don't get on with the other at all.

I'm also happy with who I am now, generally comfortable with it and as a person on the whole I rarely feel low at all. It may be considered common knowledge that an autistic child is doomed to a life of misery but that doesn't happen here. These "defects" are part of my individuality and integrity. To myself at least, I think I differ more than most in positive ways. In argument I'm less likely to go for insults, and more likely to engage in discussion rather than points scoring, which although I reckon is a plus it rarely works as it's rarely reciprocated. I think we're more likely to concentrate on a debate rather than hurting the other side.

The only person I need to validate myself is myself, and therefore all I need to do to maximise my own enjoyment is to be self-honest and show initiative.

Just being who I am. I've come to like me.

I love how I think of things that no one else thinks of. I love my attention to detail, and hyper-focus. I love how, when I'm interested in something, I can do such thorough research. I'm always interested in the psychology of things----like others have said: what makes people tick----also, it makes me sensitive to others' feelings. Someone mentioned something about being able to debate someone without engaging in name-calling, I can do that as well, and enjoy that I am that way. Maybe most of all, I love my creativity, in painting, writing, crafts, etc.

I really enjoy all the good sensory things. Small things like sticking my hand out of a moving car will bring me an innumerable amount of joy. I like the way I have different views of topics than other people, which allows them, and me, to keep an open mind. I'm superbly honest. My favourite aspect of it though would be the special interests. They keep me focused and curious about so many things.

Determination/stubbornness when working on a difficult task of interest
Honest
Genuine (not false)
Loyal
Extreme concentration
Logical
Literal
Individual

I'm pleased to be an Aspie.

I like that I'm not easily pressured into doing what "everyone" else is doing because it's "cool". This was especially true when I was a teenager and everyone else was smoking, drinking, fooling around, or had spent at least one night in jail.

I'm proud of my attention to detail and other things that make my arts and crafts fun and enjoyable to look at.

I'm glad I don't need to be around people constantly and can be alone without being lonely.

My ability to be "a big kid".

My strong sense of justice, morality, and desire to stick up for others who are treated badly for being "different".

Knowing what I like, what I don't like, and not being ashamed to tell the world about it no matter how strange it may be.

Not being obsessed with my physical appearance or clothes or other stereotypical "women" stuff.

Judging people for who they are on the inside, not on their superficial appearance.

The OP talked about a lot practice in keeping ones own company. It has for as long as I remember seemed completely natural. I don't mean being a hermit. I have always done activities strongly associated with group such as going to a movie by myself. I want to see and hear the damm movie, not gossip, or even talk about the movie

I like my ability to be able to establish a world of my own. I like my focus and logic. I didn´t know, that the sharp sense of others and the ability to read them would be an aspie thing, - and I don´t fathom, how that ability can co-exist with the clear inability to read social situations.