Aspies, what is the best life stage for you

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I would say right now. I had a hard time in junior high. I would say the turning point for me was ninth grade when I got my cat, Samantha. Things got much better for me since then. A lot of great things happened for me because of her. She saved my life and made all the good times that followed even better.

I had a great childhood through about eight. Then it went down hill every year for many years. Enjoyed 21-26, although they were not years w/o anxieties. Then, more tough times.

However, I've got to say that NOW -- age 40 -- is the best time for me. It's not the jazziest, and many things are not in place that I thought would be, but I know so much more about myself. I've made it through so much. I've excelled in many ways, too. Bottom line: I'm so much more comfortable in my own skin.

Many, many possibilities still and much hope for the future. So, young aspies, take heart...it really can get better if you don't give up.

Hang in there.

DD

Well I'm only 28 and throughout my childhood it was un-sociable.... my regret is not the socail stuff though! - it's the fact that I didn't learn harder... I really think I should be a mathematician but I wasted my time on lack-lustre hobbies and trying to fit in. If I had of just given up on the fitting in thing I would have probably ..troverted to my hobbies more avidly.

-My hobbies ended up making me a carpenter... I really should go back to school and just tell my friends to get lost, and let me be, cause really now I know why I hate socialising ... my pre-determined mentality can't cope with it. Maybe when I'm forty and my apathy towards society is somewhat content I will be happy.

Shame I have to make a living now... and pretty much after a hard days work all you want to do is go to the pub and socialise!! !

Any time but the time when I ask myself that question.

The grass is greener on the other side.

I would say right around this stage of existence for, when I was younger it was much more difficult since around earlie times I had to deal with bullies and such but, that has lessened over the years.

Childhood wasn't all great, though parts of it certainly were.

Conventional working life sucks.

At the moment I am looking to downsize and semi-retire by age 36! I can only handle my current job because I know in 5 years I'll be able to walk away to something better. The plan is to buy a narrowboat, and find a residential mooring somewhere where I can work part-time locally and really get to know the place and the people. I want a simple, rewarding and relatively frugal life, and I think that will make me the happiest I've ever been.

My childhood was the absolute worst. My AS was raging like a bull seeing red. I had fears of harmless objects, chronic insomnia, and constant digestive problems. Now add strict parents and vicious bullies to all that. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

My adolescence was a little better, and it improved each year. I was still bullied, but most of my physical symptoms of AS became milder at this age. I still had trouble falling asleep from time to time, but my digestion and fears normalized. Bullying still persisted, though.

Early twenties were better still. Bullying disappeared almost completely, as people became more mature. I was still getting rejected my every girl, leaving me a virgin at 22. I solved that problem by seeing an escort. Now all I have to do is wait to see what the future holds.

That may well end up being my situation, but for now I remain valiant in my optimistic ignorance! Good luck with your (slightly revised) retirement plan...