I agree with most of what 1401b said,
and this:
Suncatcher wrote:
The human mind is all about egoism. Being nice gives people a good feeling, thus they are indirectly selfish.
Its the same for me. I have given gameconsoles (400-500 euro's)as a birthday present to peoples kids i barely know but live in a financial mess without ever getting something in return. I have seen people in tears of joy receiving such expensive gifts that normally is unreachable to them. My motives are not to get into someones pants or boost my ego. My motives are much more darker and depressing.
Nice is not a real thing. It's a concept with a temporary conditional meaning. It is classified as an "expectation" tool for conditionals used by the hive mind.
If you want to be more "nice", then get closer to the hive mind and learn how to act.
Real behaviors just are what they are. It is the observer who assigns conceptual terms to that behavior like "nice".
Therefore, if you choose to act in a way that will be observed as "nice" by either yourself or others, then you are willfully engaging in a deceptive emotional manipulation. You are looking for a reward of some kind, be it a chemical reward in the brain, or simply the lack of some kind of punishment from those around you.
In its simplest terms the concept of nice behavior would go something like this:
actions which contribute towards the basic desires of other living beings, where there is no possible means of reciprocation.
So then why do such a thing?
Because you have a true and intuitive respect for life, - other living beings.
Because there is a subconscious perception that consciousness is something shared among all life.
Personally I find it relatively easy to do things others may describe as nice for living beings who are not infected with a self-serving mind virus. Because of this, it is extremely hard for me to be nice to most humans. They either need to be not infected, or to be in control to a point where it is obvious that they are aware of the infection and actively oppose its power.
When I'm in an office with plants and I see they need water (for their desire to survive), then I water them, no matter if anyone else sees it or not.
If a person comes up to me acting nice, but is obviously fake, I'd as soon vomit on them.