Undiagnosed aspies

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I'm most likely going to sell it this fall and get something newer that says GMC on the front.

Whether or not to get a formal diagnosis as an adult is a personal decision. In my case the provincial healthcare system along with my company's health care plan covered 100% of getting the diagnosis. I chose to go down that road so I could get certain accomodations at work as well as respond to the questions of certain family members.

If my life circumstances were different I may not have bothered. I know who I am.

I have not been diagnosed but did a lot of research. I fit plenty enough of the criteria to a T but have made it far enough without counseling or meds to probably be okay for the foreseeable future although there are times when I'm not so sure.
For now I'll just leave things as they are since a formal diagnosis as this time would be of no value.

I knew I had Aspergers when I started researching it in 2006. But I didn't get the diagnosis until 2013. Not that I didn't try earlier, once.

In 2007, I made an appointment with a PhD therapist who was listed as specializing in autism. I drove 2 hours as he was the nearest "autism" professional, only to be told after 30 minutes, "I work mainly with aggressive teenaged boys with autism. You don't fit that criteria so...good luck." I must have had a sign on my forehead that read: "go ahead and charge me $150 for nothing" because I was billed for one half-assed session of exactly NOTHING.

That turned me off for years, during which I remained self-diagnosed but very sure, knowing an official diagnosis was just a matter of finding a competent, accessible professional. But I did not want to waste any more money or time until I was sure I could see somebody who knew what they were doing, and would be honest and fair about it.

In 2013, I was ready to try again. I found a neuropsychologist specializing in ADULTS, particularly WOMEN, with Aspergers. She wasn't even around (not yet credentialed) in 2006 and, by 2013, we'd moved to a more urban area of the state, so such specialists were nearer in proximity...very helpful.

The main reason I wanted the official diagnosis was so I could verify what I already knew deep down and stop the occasional thoughts I had that said "you are just crazy/lazy/stupid/looking for excuses" once and for all. Also, I wanted others who were not taking me seriously to know: hey, it's official, so there! It worked. I'm glad I did it.

Now that I am diagnosed, my next hurdle is to find true help and support.

I haven't been diagnosed because I've spent years fighting with my health insurance, plus about six months wasting my time with a state agency that gave me a b.s. evaluation, plus the specialist I finally found didn't have an open appointment until nine months later. But I have a psych appointment the day after tomorrow, so we'll see what happens. If that doesn't pan out, there's still that specialist I'll be seeing in 2015.

These are the same as my reasons. My GP finally referred me for assessment about a month ago. I don't know how long I'll need to wait now and it's so frustrating not knowing.