NT's stereotyping Aspergers.

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I have Asperger's and I don't work (for money). It's not just because I was a failure at school with not even a high-school diploma, or because most work environments would have me dissolve into tears, fly into a rage, or just sit there daydreaming about making my own animated cartoons or video games like I really want, but because there is nothing here. Every person I grew up with had to leave to find work as soon as they were done with school. My brother graduated from high school and moved to Ontario where for the next year or the only job he had was at a McDonald's, he had to go without food or even a haircut in a roach-infested apartment and wash his clothes in the bathtub. If I was in a situation like that better put my plot in the nearest cemetery because I'd be dead in a week. My brother has been going to university for what seems like forever, worked for a short time back here at a short-lived animation studio that he told me I probably wouldn't enjoy working at because all he basically did was color in animation by computer for the For Better or For Worse cartoons, and then he moved away again and made computer software for casino machines in Las Vegas and even had trips there where he got to show his work to people from Russia and even brought his family along, but that wasn't something he wanted to do all his life so he went back to school and was doing stuff in theater and drama and he graduated this year. He seems determined to be the most if not only well-educated person in our whole family who once commonly made a living mostly by fishing at sea and believed that somehow it would always be like that. I love my brother but I feel like I'll always be a failure compared to him no matter what my parents or anyone else says.

At work last week my manager was talking to me about a person she meet with Aspergers. She said she was fascinated with his conversation about trains. She said he lives at home with his parents because people with Aspergers can't work. I could not believe what she just said. I have been working with her for a little over a year and she just said this. Why do most NT's think that people with Aspergers can't work and only talk about there special interest. I wanted to tell her I had Aspergers but in the past people dismiss me. They don't understand that not all people with Aspergers are the same. When you know one Aspie you know one Aspie.

In situation like this I'm not able to respond quickly enough. By the time I'm ready to respond they have either walked away or have moved on to a new topic

the only person who decides if you are a failure is you.
. So many parents just looking at their children as damaged goods, living in denial, and not taking stock of reality and working with their children towards leading a fulfilling life..

It doesn't matter what age you are or what's happened, if you aren't getting what you want out of life you should form as clear an idea as you can of what you really want and strive towards it. You will achieve it if you do that.

NTs stereotype Aspies.
Aspies stereotype NTs.

Everybody stereotypes everyone else. When somebody doesn't do this, they have made a conscious decision not to.