Failure at "being nice"

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Have to agree with timf and olympiadis: genuinely caring about things is, on this planet, equated with being 'too' serious, and being touchy-feely 'friendly' is equated with being sociable, so aspergic people like me are neither 'fun' nor 'polite', and shallow nt's pretending to have fun are 'charming'. Not hard to figure out what sort of people are running things.

Being nice to everyone all the time takes a lot of time and effort. Some of us prefer to be genuine over being nice and value the realness and honesty of it. I think people can see it, too. When someone is overly friendly it seems fake to me, and I don't value that. When someone is normal yet genuine I prefer it. I guess those who like me as a friend appreciate it too and those who don't stay away. However, even in my group of friends sometimes I feel like the others are talking more, messaging more to talk about little meaningless day to day things and I can't keep up with it all. I cannot spend all day messaging people, it's too much. Then I start to feel like they're building up their friendship and I'm getting left behind because I can't keep up with all the communication. And then I know that I seem cold, uncaring, unfriendly, etc.