Do you feel like you don't belong in your own family?

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Sometimes. Both my parents have mostly physical challenges, and I have mental/developmental ones. They have always considered me lazy and find it hard to believe I'm suffering too. D: So, I guess in a way... it is somewhat hard to fit in with my family because my issues aren't the same as theirs and they can't began to understand me.

Yep. Even as a toddler, I suspected something wasn't right. I didn't fit in with my family and oddly enough I didn't want too either. I felt like I was born the wrong species and they wouldn't even so much as let me talk about it. I was adopted but told about it from an early age, I felt like being adopted wasn't a negative thing, but had I never been told I was adopted or if I had been born into the family that raised me, I think I still would have felt I didn't belong. Like I said, I always felt I was born the wrong species. Not sure what species I was supposed to be, I just never felt like one of these "human" things.

I've cut ties with my family bar my sister. They are emotionally and intellectually stunted. Suicide attempt and a diagnoses of HFA later I may aswell have told them I had Ebola that makes your head explode if you look at me. Many others issues also a sister with terminal cancer that they have treat abysmally. I'm ashamed of them, after making me feel ashamed for things I have had little control over.

All the $#%@ time, with my bio-family.

My in-laws are a more understanding bunch, but then, their relative did choose to marry me.

I feel like I don't belong in my family, when I became a teenager, I started to talk less to my family at parties, I always went into an empty room to be by myself. When I lived with my mom, she wanted me to go to the parties. I'm 46 now & I haven't gone to my family parties in over 4 years, my mom is gone, everything is so different now, not only my mom is gone, my aunt is gone & my other aunt by marriage is gone too (those were the two aunts I was comfortable talking to) Now that I have more problems with my Asperger, I'm sensitive to lights, I can be Very Very Sensitive to noise & I still can't talk to them, at parties, I just keep my mouth shut. They probably don't realize it, cuz they busy with cooking & talking with each other. I'm getting stronger in life, I wont go to anymore parties, I can't go to the parties just to make them happy. They can REALLY HURT me cuz they don't understand me & my Asperger. My family refuse to learn about Asperger, my grandmother been making me angry, she told me she will look up Asperger.

I naively thought that family members were tight regardless. I have a brother who lives less than 10 miles away and he won't even return my calls. It seems that he was friendly while my mother was still around, but once she passed he won't have nothing to do with me.

I haven't felt like a part of my family for a year. Since my mum almost disowned me for relating to Sgt. Schultz with the German helmet, I haven't felt much like a first rate family member. I've just started to feel a bond with my mum again in September.

There is always that little thought in the back of my mind , I must of been adopted.

Absolutely. If I didn't look so much like my mum I would have thought I was adopted.

I suppose I do. I know that everyone treats people differently because people are different, but most of the time I feel like my parents, siblings and other relatives treat me a bit too differently. For example I'm always the last one to know about what is going on in their lives and I often find out these things by accident... to be honest I'm not really that interested anyway, but it is kind of annoying when everyone else knows what people talk about and I'm completely left out of the loop. I know that they have no obligation of any kind to talk to me about their personal lives, just like I don't have to talk to them about mine, but it can still be a little frustrating.

Do you also find that they seem to know whats going on your life even though you may have only told 1 family member i.e. The information chain only travels one direction.

Well, yes and no. I mean my relatives don't really know much more about me than what I tell them, but if my mom knows something, soon my sisters and dad do too. And the other way around, except my dad is a bit better at keeping the things I tell him to himself than the rest of the family... but then again that might be because we rarely talk about anything that has some meaning. If there's something I really don't want other people to know I usually tell them so and those things stay under wraps most of the time, but if I share something with them and specifically haven't told them to keep it to themselves someone else soon knows too...

Yes

I always described my family as four strangers living together, except that my father and sister seemed to share some mutual sympathy. They were the NTs. Mom spent her whole life just avoiding a misdiagnosis, and trying to look normal. Having kids was part of her cover, but she treated childcare as a duty to discharge as efficiently as possible, and left when I was 15. My sister knew there wasn't enough mom for her, let alone a sibling, so she was quite unhelpful. I left home ASAP, and she got most of dad's bequest.

My extended family wants nothing to do with me on my Dad's side because my mother is the wrong religion. That has nothing to do with autism though.

My immediate family does seem to have its own clique. I think I am good friends with my sister or good friends for me. But she talks to my parents everyday. She never talks to me and I live in the same house as my parents. If I text her she will text back but I can tell it's just not the same closeness. It makes me sad sometimes but I know I am different.