Handling social calls such as JW's
Here's a comment from a former JW that explains why simply asking them to leave or to stop visiting may not work:
To be honest, I really think you should be able to post a sign and not be bothered by JWs, Mormons, life insurance salesmen, girl scouts, and so forth. But in the case of JWs, it is a badge of honor to knock on a door where they know they are unwelcome. If it?s against the law and they risk being thrown in jail, so much the better. Preaching in the face of adversity is as close to sainthood as JWs get these days, I?m afraid. Being an anointed isn?t even as big a deal as it used to be. But getting tossed in jail for their beliefs is. And a No Trespassing sign is a challenge that many of them will accept. In fact, they?ll probably feel good about themselves afterward. They?ll be the talk of the KH for weeks if that happened. And more would surely follow.
I agree that this is disrespectful of them. I was harassed by JWs for several years when I stopped going to meetings myself. I just don?t think it will work the way you believe it should, unfortunately.
[from the second to last post on this page: http://www.miskeptics.org/2012/12/5-way ... your-door/]
There are some hilarious stories on this page about people pranking JWs.
http://www.reddit.com/r/funny/comments/ ... s_witness/
Anyway, here are some more comments from that page from former JWs:
We also would generally ignore No Soliciting signs (because we weren't selling anything, doncha know). No Trespassing signs work okay in rural areas, but not in urban and suburban neighborhoods. We'd generally ignore them there. "No Jehovah's Witnesses" signs can be hit-and-miss. Definitely not 100% effective, as there will always be some ultra-righteous Witness who will ignore it.
Even getting put on the Do Not Call list doesn't guarantee that you'll be left alone. You'll get called on less frequently, but they will check at least every couple years to see if you've moved.
Also told that those signs don't mean anything, and at least in the UK and Australia, everyone has a right to walk to your front door without it being trespassing.
exjw here. No, that doesn't work. JW's have gone to court and successfully established that coming to your front door and ringing the doorbell is not trespass, so they don't feel that they are violating "No Trespassing" or "No Soliciting" signs.
Simply answering the door, confirming they are JWs (and not Mormons or door-to-door Baptists or some other such sect), and then saying "I do not want Jehovah's Witnesses to call here again" should put you on their "Do Not Call" list. Most JWs will try to honor that list, though errors do happen.
Ex-JW here. I used to say this too... but it's not true. The ultimate goal of any JW at your door is to convert you. When they say that's not their goal, they're lying to themselves as well as you.
I would have shut the door, but on Mondays, it's trash day and the trash truck is my 3 yr old's obsession right now. He has meltdowns if we don't stay outside to watch it, and they just had to come right before it showed up.
I don't have a problem with people as long as they leave me alone, but I cannot handle being pushed. I can't handle confrontations, I end up shutting down after freaking out, which was actually when they left. When I just stopped responding. I'm not looking forward to when they come back. I've known people who ended up getting threatening (with guns!) just to get them to leave them alone.
But I can't be mean. I've tried. I get a severe anxiety attack...
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I don't answer the door unless I'm expecting someone, so after about a decade of independent living, a team of JWs lucked out and rang my doorbell on the evening I was expecting a guest.
There seemed to be no way to get them to leave by being polite. They really believe they're doing a good thing by being so pushy. They said so: "But sir, I really want you to go to heaven after you die!". You cannot reason with a believer.
They make me super nervous because it's almost like I'm left no choice but to be rude.
Persistently repeating myself "Sorry but I'm really not interested" eventually worked.
I then wished them the best of luck, because as annoying as I find them, I think it's cool I live in a country with religious freedom, and what they're doing matters to them and is pretty harmless. I get nervous but that's because my methods for handling social situations don't seem to work in this case. That's not their fault.
Edit: oops I didn't see this thread had been inactive for so long, sorry about resurrecting it!
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