Desire for children?

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I don't think I'll ever have children. The idea of childbirth terrifies me so much. I also don't think I'd be able to have a child the way someone normally does by pushing the baby out. D: These things are very hard for me to express like others. Not to mention having to raise the child as well without the state deeming me unfit to care for it due to the nature of my disabilities.

However, if it wasn't terrifying, and I didn't have a lot of problems... I wouldn't mind having a child. I don't even think I'd be able to care for an adopted/fostered child either. ._.

Thank you kindly!

I am just so happy to have them in my life. I mean we have hard times, my two autistic children have meltdowns a lot but I guess since I have autism as well I can relate to them and I often know how to make it better for them. My son is mostly nonverbal, he only speaks a few words but he is so awesome, smart, and witty. They are all very unique in their own ways and special to me. They show me so much love and I am so lucky to be able to share my love with them.

I am honored to be their mom.

And they are blessed to have you.

Then why do people have kids today? Because thinking they will have a great life and achieve a lot is for the birds! In reality they will live less well than their parents, have a crap life like I described, and we are leaving children a crap world and crap planet. So why so much cruelty bringing a kid in today's world? Parents can love them has much has they want, doesn't change anything. So like I said, it's selfish.

Last edited by SpirosD on 19 Nov 2014, 5:23 pm, edited 1 time in total.

You have to remember that this is only your opinion, your point of view, not everybody sees the world through your eyes.
Maybe others have another point of view, maybe they see life differently than you.

I had my doubts about my own abilities and tolerance for children. Unless they are rather quiet thoughtful kids they sort of drove me mad. But the minute she was born it was like everything changed. This wasn't just some noisy, messy, ruin my peace kid. It was ours and although difficult at times there was a natural concern and involvement that came on like a switch. The hardest part was learning the practical 'how-tos' very quickly. Our first had premature medical issues in infancy and it was a bit nerve wracking at times.

Of course it's only my opinion, but perhaps I see the world the way it really is, just by observing, travelling and reading, and pretty sure most people are actually to scared or refuse to see the reality of the what the world is...

Also, I think society started to go down when the concept of children should be seen and not heard stopped to exist, but that is another debate...

Yes, for a few years it motivated me to work through tougher times, but Ive put that desire on hold.

No children, no desire and I could not take care of, provide for their needs.
But I have 3 cats, I can take care of, and provide for their needs
as cats needs are easier to meet than little human persons needs.

I want to adopt and foster children one day when I'm in my 30's. (After I'm done with college, have a career, and settle down.)

Being gay doesn't preclude one from having kids.

My wife's son is gay. And he has a son born via surrogacy.

Heaven forbid I have kids just one hyperactive mischief maker is enough if I were to have offspring the world will be doomed lol.

At a very young age, when I first learned of the concept, I've wanted to adopt children. My six year old rationale was, "Why make more when they are already there and need parents to love them!?" Now, since I am gay, it makes even more sense for my future plans. My mother is going to rely on me for grandchildren since I am the only one of my siblings to express any interest... and I do have interest. Although, I may possibly skip the diaper stage...

No kids for me. Never wanted them before when I was younger, and still don't.

I never wanted kids. I didn't even like kids when I was a kid myself & I have lots of disabilities that might could be passed down that I'm on disability for.

Yes.As i get older i do feel the urge for children (at lest one)and i cant help but feel like im missing out on something special.I do have my worries that go along with it but i feel like the positive outweigh the negative.
I kind of had a moment tonight at a friends place where my friends gf was sorting a box of christmas decorations with their daughter and watching them brought back memories from my childhood and then i though of what i was missing.I had to distract myself to not breack down in tears.though i have been feeling quite alone lately,with christmas comming and found out im going to be alone for this one.