people are trying to say this is in my control? I'm so hurt.

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Thank you

To me it sounds like you do not have a very supportive and good hearted set of "friends" I keep telling people I know that real friends do not treat you this way. Often we surround ourselves with people we know from school or growing up but it does not mean that they are quality friendships. Real friends are loving and supportive, real friends think before they speak and help build you up.

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I suggest the next time you go to a gig, ditch your friends and go dance near the others dancing 'like no-ones watching'. Why would your friends feel like they should have an opinion on how u dance? They're just jealous that you don't care what ppl think.

The best dancers are the ones who just "feel" it and do whatever their body wants to your friends are probably not bad people, but they will grow up and wish they weren't always so uptight and judgemental all the time.

Some people think, that Beethoven had some degree of bipolar. His depressions were deep and his up periods were stormy. Apart from being highly gifted in general, he was ALSO a musical genius and music was his "first language", but it doesn´t make him autistic per se.
He was, however socially unbalanced, childish provocative, detained by the police a few times for drunkenness and fighting in the street (which wasn´t as stigmatizing in those days).
He is difficult to find out, especially as a lot of his communication was burnt by his secretary, Schindler (now "Schwindler"), who wanted to form the memory of Beethoven - and probably that of himself too.

Van Gogh colorblind????? I guess, someone would have mentioned it a few years earlier.

When I try to talk to my friends about my Asperger's, they tell me to "get over myself". I have also been diagnosed with depression recently. When I mentioned it to them, they also said for me to "get over myself". If anyone knows how to "get over" a chemical imbalance, please, I would love to know. Now, most would just say I should find new ones because my current ones are pretty sh***y. Yet, finding new friends sounds exhausting and time consuming. Also, because of the Aspergers, I absolutely suck at making friends. Kind of a tough cycle, I completely get you.

That sounds unloving and harsh, but people DO NOT UNDERSTAND DEPRESSION! They think, depression is something, you can snap out of.
If I were you, I would consider what friends, I would like to keep and give them a little explanation.
Is it a random depression or is it cyclic?

If they want you to "get over" aspergers, it might be because they haven´t seen anything unusual about you. They are probably worried, that you might change.
If you are newly diagnosed, you do have a need to talk about it, but choose who to tell.