How are you with being sarcastic / understanding sarcasm?

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It took me a very long time for me to "get" sarcasm. Even now, as an adult, whenever I'm sleep deprived, stressed out, or whatever, I sometimes have to outright ask friends and co-workers if they're being sarcastic.

I can be sarcastic and usually I can understand it. Sometimes I have to ask to be sure though.

That's a start!

I'm not too great at recognizing sarcasm. I rarely try to be sarcastic. I've tried using sarcasm in my first job and trying to have fun with coworkers, but the majority of the time I was called an a**hole for it. Most times if I say something sarcastic, people apparently think I'm being serious, so I stopped trying.....

I can't pick up on sarcasm. I take people for what they are literally saying. I can be sarcastic sometimes but for the most part I say what I am thinking. Most of the times very blunt.

I've never had a problem recognizing it, and quite enjoy using it.

The only way I pick up on sarcasm is if it's said in that over-the-top sarcastic voice, if I know the person well, or if it's something completely unfathomable. If I think it's real, I just say, "oh okay." If I think it's fake, I chuckle. Sometimes I'm wrong.

The one that gets me most is when they are discussing a topic I know nothing about. The other day someone was describing his IT job to me, and they made a quip that I think people without knowledge of IT would have understood, but I took it as a truth until the "just joking" cue arrived. Then I chuckled.

I feel somewhat comfortable using sarcasm for the common ones like:

"Gee, that sounds like fun." (for something that isn't fun at all)

"I can't wait." (when someone or something unpleasant will arrive in the future)

It's strange because my mind is pretty cinematic and even literary, but something about real life conversations makes it difficult. Reality doesn't have as reliable a script, I suppose.

I honestly don't know. I get it sometimes, and I don't get it other times.

A lot of people think I can be quite sarcastic when in fact I'm only being honest.

For example, I've said:

"that's a really stupid idea - was that your idea?" No sarcasm intended but people think I'm being sarcastic.

So.... I guess I don't get sarcasm.

For some reason I'm often accused of being sarcastic when I'm not. I presume I'm not broadcasting the signals appropriately. As for detecting sarcasm - I don't tend to unless it's made very obvious.

I don't get it. Do they think you're saying it's a really good idea?

No - I'm saying I think the idea is stupid and asking them if it's their idea. Others think I'm trying to be <<sarcastic>> when I'm not.

Sorry, I wasn't clear in what I wrote.

I understand what you're really saying. I just don't understand what others think you're saying....What would your words mean if you were actually being sarcastic?

If I was being sarcastic, my words would mean that I think the person is stupid, as opposed to just the idea being stupid.

Sarcasm, as understand it, is usually a thinly veiled insult.

Now I'm not sure I even really know what sarcasm is.

I thought sarcasm was saying more or less the opposite of what you mean with a specific tone to indicate that you actually mean the opposite. (e.g. "That's great" said in a tone that indicates it's not great at all, or "That's terrible" said in a tone that means it's not terrible at all; Or more complicated opposites like saying something ridiculous and untrue to make a point about what is true.)

That's my understanding as well. For example, I could say, "I just love it when the bus is late, and I'm standing out in the rain waiting for it to arrive," and that would be sarcasm.

I don't know when I developed the ability to be sarcastic- maybe in my teens? I couldn't recognize sarcasm until around my mid-20s though. I was lucky enough to have a co-worker who was sarcastic all the time, and would tell me, "I was being sarcastic," when I didn't get it, so I had lots of practice. I don't pick up on sarcasm 100%, but I do most of the time. When I was much younger though, I thought of sarcasm as "lying," and I hated it, since I could never recognize it. Same as when people were "kidding."