etiquette and social study

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How I gain social skills is simply about learning people and about them. I don't learn the 'surface', I learn the deeper parts about them: what motivates them, what's behind their social masks, and so on..

I skip the cognitive empathy part like body language, tone, and specific words like euphemisms, and so on. I do not emulate their culture and what makes an NT. I can only learn that intellectually. I can only apply if it feels right, not when it feels necessary.
Jumped to the conceptual parts like "How to evoke vibes, detect them, past through it, etc..". How I apply myself to such. I just pick up the cognitive parts as I learn how to detect invisible parts of interaction.
External changes are easy as pretending, but not internal. Not the Skill.

Then I'm able to be more polite without having some façade or acting or a need for conditioning like rehearsal. I just need wisdom if not guile to apply what I learned intellectually then the rest is up to what I want or what I need.
Social rules cannot oppress me if I go further when it's possible to put such system to your favor. Minority or not.
So far, I learned how and when those signs appear without effort. Yet they're too vague; it's like a blurry colored text that I could barely read, if such 'text' is unreadable that I have to resort to logic, like any typical aspie would.
And I'm still stuck on one-on-one. I have yet to learn about group talks.

I'm not sure if anyone understand what I just wrote.

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