Do people think you're gay?

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I don't know what people think about my sexuality. I don't ask them and so far they haven't haven't asked me.

I do remember being asked maliciously in high school if I was in a relationship with my then best friend.

I could see why people might be a little confused by my behaviour. I'm very aware and amused by gender expectations. Sometimes I deliberately confound those expectations by ignoring my competitive urges. I tend to treat men and women alike and I'm amused when women display gendered behaviour like exaggerated helplessness. These are independent, professional women but sometimes they want a man to help them out. My current job is also stereotypically feminine (receptionist) so that can confuse some women who are not used to being treated well by men. I receive a lot of compliments and gratitude from women when I do something nice for them like making them tea or fixing a computer. They have no problems asking me to do masculine things like painting, fixing or spider removal but they are very apologetic when asking me to clean premises or prepare tea and coffee for a meeting. I'm a volunteer now but their behaviour hasn't changed since I became a volunteer rather than an employee of sorts.

I'm not gay btw. My brother is and that's great. I've met a few gay men through him and I get on quite well with them. Sometimes they don't get my jokes about gender roles but very few people get my jokes.

Nope, no one's thought I'm gay in real life.

People have called me a lesbian before because of being obsessed with a woman. But just because one is obsessed with a person on the same sex, doesn't mean they ''love'' them. I never had sexual feelings for a woman, and the thought of being sexually and physically attracted to a woman just grosses me out. I have different feelings towards men. I experience sexual feelings, and I have a boyfriend now who I really love, like a typical woman does in a heterosexual relationship.

When I have an obsession with a woman, I get a feeling of competitiveness towards her. I want to be like her, look like her, live like her. Maybe it's a self-loathing thing, where I really want to escape my body and my life and be someone else, but physically can't, so I just obsess over her instead, which I believe is the next best thing.

Many people have thought i am gay over the years. 'I don't have the whole competitive gender thing going on' is a good way of saying it. From about 12 i sensed that it locking antlers just wasn't something i was really interested in.
Being artistic can think contributes to people making assumptions about a persons sexuality. Aside from the cliché of being well groomed, or having decent hair and clothes, artistic types need to be aware of male and female aspects of themselves as making artwork depends on being sensitive to ying and yang, not just in gender, but in other things too.

Yes, and thankfully, I am. It sure simplifies things!

I was called gay a lot, when I was in school. but I think that was mostly for derogatory reasons more then it was implying that if I was actually gay or not.

Nobody asks me about my sexual orientation, probably because I don't hang out with anyone who doesn't already know me. There are only two social circles in my life: family and co-workers. The family knows I'm straight but not pursuing a relationship. The co-workers don't need to know. I'm the guy who everyone else complains to about their bad relationships.

In school I was occasionally called gay, but so is every other guy who doesn't publicly slobber on girls.

No. I was hit on by a girl once in a gay bar on a Drag Karaoke night (very funny) but I don't think that counts.

People used to because I'm sort of on the asexuality spectrum & shy talking about women & sexual stuff. I've had acouple gay guys come on to me as well.

My sister likes to think I'm gay just so she can feel good about herself. She's a homophobe just like my mom.

When I was 18, my mom forced me and an old friend apart because she thought he was gay. He wasn't gay, he had "regular" Autism. To this day, my mom hasn't apologized about it. In fact, she acts like me and my friend never met at all.

Yes. I don't pursue sexual relationships with women and don't like to talk about sex. Maybe that is why everybody thought I was gay as a teenager. I never seek sex so the assumption is that I am gay and in the closet.

Definitely. I am have more androgynous (or feminine) body proportions, I have some mannerisms that are more effeminate, my voice is such that strangers who call me often think I'm a woman, I generally have no interest in sex, I don't even glance at "attractive people" when other people (guys mainly) are busy staring.

probably, I have always feigned asexuality in order to make it appear my lack of relationships is due to choice. I assume lots of people would interpret this as being in the closet, when really I am a closet heterosexual.

No.

NEXT QUESTION!

I'm a girl and I had one friend that I would always be seen with in high school (cause she was my bestfriend or whatever) and people used to always ask if we were lesbians. I didn't really care though cause I'm not grossed out nor have a problem with lesbian-ness.

Some girl painted my nails for a pack of starburst on the day before my junior year. Who can resist starbursts? I became the laughing stock of my highschool when I showed up on the 1st day of school with my nails painted cuz i coudn't get them off. I got made fun of by virtually every male freshmen and sophomore. Everyone thought I was gay, actually it helped because girls had no problem talking to me cuz they thought I was gay.