Are Autistic Men More Likely to be Misogynistic?

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I don't think misogyny is a male-on-WP problem. I think autistic people, in general, are more likely to be misogynistic or misandristic. Before you start shoving #notallautistics down my throat, let me explain: The problem with us, being autistic, is that we tend to perseverate on things. So, for example, if we have a negative experience with the opposite sex, then we will focus on that, and focus on that, and focus on it until it grows out of control and becomes full blown hatred. While a neurotypical is more able to push aside the negativity that we obsess over, we can't do that as easily. Of course, maturity comes into play, and social skills, ect.

Autistics can also become misogynistic/misandristic by reading or otherwise engaging with materials that promote ideas of hatred towards any gender (and even race, religion, ect) and then obsessing over the concepts brought up in that hateful propaganda. So, it's not always about negative experience, not understanding “no means no”, or blaming other people for your own shortcomings.

My little brother, who is also on the spectrum, has become scary misogynistic. As far as I know he hasn't had any negative experience with women, and I'd know because he tells me pretty much everything. He's always got girls hanging around him, and he lucked out getting the model-esque genes in the family so not fair. But for some reason he's been spouting a lot of really hateful stuff about women. And by “some reason” I mean it's because of the content he reads online that is just straight-up misogynistic. He obsesses over it. Then he tells me (or shows me articles) all of these ideas he's been fed, and it's just...there's no arguing with it I tried, because he's obsessed.

Now, don't get me wrong, NTs can be misogynistic or misandristic or bigoted in any way. I've met plenty. They just don't have the same social barriers, and obsessive tendencies, that I think makes it more prevalent among us.

autistic males are more likely to be socially deprived in conditions relating to mating and courtship. This can manifest in many ways, one of the most common being such as seeing the "haves" in a different light than themselves the "have nots".

What am I saying? are they misogynistic by being autistic? no. Is it more likely their bad experiences will show as negative emotions towards women and men in higher society? yes

I came off as being a misogynistic here when I was singe. I made lots of post out of frustration & desperation & trying to sort things out that got interpreted as generalizing & being hateful towards women. In relaity I'm somewhat of a feminist.

I think Autistic men are less misogynistic than NT men but can appear more due to their honesty and lack of discretion, autistic men are more likely to put Women on an unreachable pedestal then vent their frustrations that women fail to achieve the high standards we set for them, whilst being wrong this doesn't fit the definition of being misogynistic.

NT men on the other hand tend to prefer football and drinking with their friends than women, women are needed by them though in order to put their semen into. I work with lots of NT men, I would estimate more view women as a necessary evil for sexual pleasure than those who desire women on the emotional level that autistics do.

Plenty of frustrated neurotypicals also hold sexist views (have a look at the message boards over at PUA Hate or Love Shy, for instance), so it's not a typical "AS thing". A big problem is that there's an entire market that targets these frustrated guys, filling them with crap about "the friend zone" (I was friends with my girlfriend for almost half a year before we started dating), "cocky funny", negging, and so on. We are talking brainwashed and deluded people rather than genuinely bad people, I think.

As I see it, most accusations of misogynistic behavior of the sort that genuinely victimizes the woman, have to do with men in positions of power who abuse their power to intimidate the woman or take advantage of her sexually.

The problem is that very few AS men are in such a position and resent being lumped together with these men when told to undergo "sensitivity training" or lectured to by female associates on the evils of misogyny.

I think I can safely say the tendency to prefer beer and football over women or as we say in the US, "bros before hos" typifies extreme NT behavior. Ironically that seems to typify the sort of man that women are supposedly attracted to.

My first girlfriend used to lecture me constantly on how the world was in such terrible condition because men had always been in charge. However those men (Putin notwithstanding!! !) weren't Aspies.

Not sure how to conclude this rant but I hope somebody gets it.

I've got a hunch that sexually-frustrated NT guy would tend to be WAY more sexist than his autistic counterpart. Meaning those typical entitled NT guys that openly whine/complain when they haven't been laid for a relatively short-time(i.e. weeks or months).

Men with autism are more likely to be systematically rejected ( more often than not rudely without explanation as I too have experienced multiple times ) and treated negatively by women, so that creates a negative or fearful image of women in many men with autism. Multiple men with a negative or fearful image of women together creates an environment of resent or verbal frustration. In reality though I haven't ever seen a person with autism act out in misogyny and I have met a lot of people with autism.

The things you read here are caused frustration and despair, you would be pissed off too if you were rejected for the 10th time and do not understand why. If this happens you need to blow off steam, and some people come to these forums to do just that. In the same way you will read a lot of frustration about other subjects on the other subforums.