Do Aspiens Have Unfair Expectations of NTs?

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In general, expecting NTs to know about autism without being formally educated beforehand is not realistic. I do think that those with autism forget that NTs live in the same culture that refuses to educate people about autism that they do and so they also need to understand that NTs will often not understand why autistics have certain behaviors. It is an unfortunate fact that autistics often have immutable behaviors that can easily be interpreted as hostile, rude or even hateful by those who are not educated about their condition. So educating them first before passing any of our own judgements is critical.

Aspiens... Homo Sapiens... Aspie Aliens...

It varies in your culture which determines how difficult would it be.
Aspies can't/don't know/do (insert NT thing here), NTs can't/don't know/do (insert aspie/autie thing here).
NTs thought aspies could do (insert NT thing here) because it's easy for them.
Aspies thought NTs could do (insert aspie thing here) because it's easy for them, too.
Perhaps meeting halfway would but who knows when it'll happen. Or how would it happen...


Anyway, true enough. Sometimes I thought what I do was the norm or 'average' when in the eyes of others it isn't. Same goes to NTs to me, when they thought it's simple, to me it isn't. Both parties won't get along well that way.

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Some aspies have unfair expectations of NT's, in the same way some NT's have unfair expectations of aspies. Two such different interpretations of the world as a whole causes a clash, which is usually not an intent of either party.

This is a great discussion, and a terrific use of this forum. Thanks to everyone -- I've really enjoyed reading your comments.

I think what is different about us is how we think, and we should be allowed to be ourselves. But this is within the bounds of what society allows, and if you can't accept social norms, you have the freedom to move to a different society or to reject society and live alone. I think all of these are good options to keep in mind -- everyone will have a different answer here for what is best for them.

I also think that people become more understanding of our quirks when they get to know us. To some degree people have to learn to trust us first, and once they have done that they can accept us for who we are. And the reverse, too.

So I don't like to move around a lot: I like to stay in one place and develop deep connections. When I live in a society where I trust others and they trust me, I lose a lot (but not all) of my anxiety and frustration with other people.

But yeah...I have to bite my tongue a lot about other people's ridiculous ideas of how to do things. It takes all kinds, and I live in a glass house, so...none of my business. (I just repeat these things to get myself to not say something I assume would be considered rude.)

How do you feel about the term "Aspergian?"

Also: from my experience, I don't believe Aspiens are all saintly truth-tellers, and NT's all absolute liars. We all have our strengths and weaknesses.

I don't believe diplomatically expressing a thought, versus bluntly expressing the same thought, is "lying."

Compulsion and the way it is satisfied is exclusive to each individual regardless of whether you are,

Homo Sapien or
Homo Aspien.

Does knowing the difference lead to antipathy?

If anything, I've had such low expectations of other people throughout my life, I've put up with a lot of things I shouldn't have.