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Sweetleaf
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19 Apr 2015, 10:10 am

I meant to add it would make more sense if the normally developing two year old stops all development and like goes into an infant state to call it regression, but based on not speaking doesn't make a lot of sense. I suppose that is another reason I like the spectrum idea because it acknowledges its more complex than that somewhat and of course people aren't necessarily going to remain at the same level of functioning.


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19 Apr 2015, 11:30 am

EzraS wrote:
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I feel guilty sometimes that my dad can't have a regular son, because he is so much into the father and son thing. But he insists that having me for his son is the best thing ever and has been a rewarding experience for him. He is the sort of guy that really loves a challenge.


Don't feel guilty. I'm sure you two have father/son time, or even mere moments, where he feels the connection you think he's missing out on because he doesn't have a "regular son." Also, if he had a different son instead of you.. he wouldn't have you, and I guarantee he wouldn't choose that if he's anything at all how you've described here & in other posts.

Believe him when he insists that. That's not the sort of thing a man like him would lie about.

See? How could he be truly challenged to his potential w/o having been blessed with you. Everything happens for a reason; even you.


Thanks. I just wish sometimes I could do stuff like play ball with him etc. But he has a lot of fun with me being me and we have a lot of great father son time. We both like to go exploring and sometimes go onto areas that might be trespassing on county or city property. So the idea he came up with is that if we ever get caught and challenged, is to claim that I got away from him, which I thought was hilarious. He laughs stuff off and jokes in a way that makes me feel better about my disabilities. He says that sometimes the best way to deal with adversity is to laugh at it.


You're welcome. I hear ya on the wish list - everyone wants what they don't/can't have.. but it sounds like you're fairly well focused on the positive. Keep it that way.

That plan made me smile - thanks for that. :) And he's bang on with laughter sometimes being the best way to deal with adversity.

Your dad's the kind of guy I'd buy a beer. :beer: You? Maybe a rootbeer.


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20 Apr 2015, 8:05 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
A bit confused how they figure you or anyone 'regressed' at the age of 2, or how they figure it out...I mean last I checked 2 year olds are pretty immature, not good at communicating and make a lot of noise, and younger than that well somehow I doubt you where a great speaker at the age of 1 or younger and then lost your speech only to regain it at age 5....how do they know you didn't just get overwhelmed, or that you didn't learn to say a few words but not develop an interest in that way of communicating enough to keep it up consistantly?


Well, typical 2 year olds can talk in single words or short phrases with a vocabulary of over 200 words and are very social and talkative to parents (but often not to strangers, because of stranger anxiety). From what I've heard with autistic regression, it typically involves loss of speech and loss of sociability, and the onset of repetitive behaviours. If a child who used to have 200 words and talk all the time hasn't said anything in the past month, and is suddenly acting withdrawn and lining up toys or whatever, parents are going to notice that.