Being 'Normal"

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21 Mar 2007, 12:09 pm

I only fake normal. If I actually was normal, that'd be rather boring (more so when those who know me know me for my insanity. )

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21 Mar 2007, 12:20 pm

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I spent a lot of my teens and indeed until recently saying I wished I could just be normal, as quite frankly, I found the symptoms of being 'not normal' highly distressing and exhausting. My mother would often ask why I couldn't just be normal, or be like everyone else, or be like the other girls...so often when I was dressed in super baggy clothes because they were comfy, she would point out to me how pretty another girl of my age was, and I would sting. I have been called a freak by her before, so yes, I have often wished I were 'normal' or at least could pass for normal.

I always wear baggy pants and I hate wearing anything constricting except maybe the occaisional smaller T-Shirt. The only real reasons I wear clothes like that is because I'm somewhat self-conscious (though I really have no reason to be, I'm a lifeguard who's in prett dang good shape) and I hate the feeling of tight clothing (I can't stand jeans of any type unless they are so baggy that when I stand the only place I can feel them is on my hips, and on my shoes. )

Being autistic doesn't really bother me though; I'm pretty secure in who I am. All the people who can't deal with it can just get used to it because I'm not going away and neither is my Aspergers.

I too only fake being normal, which sucks because at the end of the day, I am totally exhausted from trying to interpret social cues and nonverbal ideas from my classmates and friends.

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21 Mar 2007, 1:06 pm

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Most people automatically think I'm normal by the way I look I suppose (got voted best dressed in twelth grade!). Some people think I'm really weird, but only bullies whom typically have ADHD. Trust me, I know.

Only my body language and somewhat unusual eye contact gives me away. I look normal, so people expect me to act normal. It's like their thinking, "WTF, why don't you act like you look?!?!?!"

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21 Mar 2007, 1:08 pm

Ragtime wrote:

Lightning88 wrote:

Only my body language and somewhat unusual eye contact gives me away. I look normal, so people expect me to act normal. It's like their thinking, "WTF, why don't you act like you look?!?!?!"

ditto on all of your above post...it's like you read my mind!

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21 Mar 2007, 1:18 pm

I wouldn't mind being exactly who I am, but without the unpleasant reactions to stress that I experience...I was in the middile of something of a minor "meltdown" last night when I wrote my original post. I am still not feeling too great.

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21 Mar 2007, 1:26 pm

Yes, because I have AS and my communication problems are being perceived as hard to deal with to some people.

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21 Mar 2007, 2:54 pm

On days when I'm at home with my boyfriend I'm perfectly happy being me. Unfortunately, those days don't happen very often and I have to go out and see people who think I'm weird. Most days when I'm at uni, surrounded by people who don't like me, I wish more than anything that I could just fit in.

If someone actually gave me the option though, I'd stick to being me. I guess really I want people to like me for me, but that seems less likely than me suddenly being normal.

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21 Mar 2007, 6:15 pm

Heh, in the end, I can't be normal. And I love being me.

Besides you ever notice how NTs start squealing and acting idiotic whenever someone they know approaches.....? My friends do and it's annoying.

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21 Mar 2007, 6:23 pm

When I was a teenager, I used to wish I was anyone but me.

I know how to act normal, say the right thing, but it feels hollow.

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21 Mar 2007, 7:07 pm

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When I was a teenager, I used to wish I was anyone but me.

I know how to act normal, say the right thing, but it feels hollow.

I don't. Then again, I've never really bothered. I just hid in the Senior Room all lunchtime.

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21 Mar 2007, 7:25 pm

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I don't. Then again, I've never really bothered. I just hid in the Senior Room all lunchtime.

That's comforting to know. When I was a teenager, I didn't have a clue what was different about me. There was no AS diagnosis and I just felt defective. It's funny, but I used to look at handicapped kids and think it wouldn't be so bad to have polio because everyone knows about it and treat you kindly. And I would look at kids with obvious deficits - like being very fat and unattractive - and think that wouldn't be so bad either because at least she has friends and doesn't seem to feel like me.

I just stopped going to high school. Later I graduated from college. I have adapted. You will also learn how to adapt.

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21 Mar 2007, 7:32 pm

SeriousGirl wrote:

Kezzstar wrote:

I don't. Then again, I've never really bothered. I just hid in the Senior Room all lunchtime.

Adapt? Sounds interesting.

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21 Mar 2007, 7:33 pm

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Besides you ever notice how NTs start squealing and acting idiotic whenever someone they know approaches.....? My friends do and it's annoying.

That's more...uh...teenage and tweenage girls

Or maybe I just live in a weird society :lol:

Here, rock stars both local and overseas (and politicians, sports stars, movie stars, anyone famous) can just walk down the street and if people notice at all, all they get is 'Sup?' or 'Howzit?'... :lol:

One of NZ's biggest rock bands, Elemeno P...lead singer stumbles down the main street in Auckland, pissed off his face DRUNK, my sister nearly crashes into him...she just raises an eyebrow, smiles at him and keeps walking. XD As for anyone less famous, squealing and getting excited is reserved almost entirely for tweens and teens...some of us can be pretty boisterous, but uh...squealing? That's just low! XD

Thankfully most 'NTs' grow out of the 'OHMIGODOHMIGOD *SQUEE*' phase sooner or later...it's very much a teenage girl trait

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21 Mar 2007, 7:34 pm

Shale wrote:

Kezzstar wrote:

Besides you ever notice how NTs start squealing and acting idiotic whenever someone they know approaches.....? My friends do and it's annoying.

That's more...uh...teenage and tweenage girls

Or maybe I just live in a weird society :lol:

Oh....my mistake.....LOL oh dear......I always do that.

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21 Mar 2007, 7:39 pm

I think that all the time. I hate being obsessed with things no one likes...

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21 Mar 2007, 8:35 pm

Kezzstar wrote:

Oh....my mistake.....LOL oh dear......I always do that.

LOL.

Ask a question before a generalisation is allowed to pass the 'submit' button... is the generalisation group a little too large? :lol:

NTs - huge blanket term. Tweens - somewhere between child and teenager.

I can assure you though, an exception to the above rule about squealing people...is when you get a whole bunch of old guys piss-drunk after a rugby match or soccer match (any big sport for that matter)...almost ANYTHING will make them make stupid noises -______-; Especially if you're stupid enough to drive past with a team flag hanging out your car window... :lol:

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