Small kids make me anxious

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Apparently you can't rent a bus in denmark, because i have experienced 20+ kids in a bus at once at least 4 times.

I live in Essex, where a lot of people seem to pop out kid after kid, all close together, or two of three people are together with about two young children each, all around the same age, so all together there are about five or six small kids between them.

And also where I come from, you're not supposed to display any emotion when you're out on your own. If you even look the slightest annoyed or startled or agitated, you get odd looks and even some people laugh out loud at you. So you've just got to sit there, have the patience of a saint, and put up with noisy kids around you.

As a bit of a sideline, there's quite an issue with the antics of older kids on buses. Being on a bus which fills up with schoolkids aged about 11-14 can be hellish in some parts of the UK, with dreadful levels of noise, swearing, fighting and stuff being thrown around.

In the later 20th Century this wasn't so much of an issue until shortly after 4 pm, when the school day finished, but about 15 years ago when I lived in London, I started noticing that the kids were getting on the buses at about 3-15 pm, and now, in my present part of the country, it's often around 2-40 pm, and occasionally even a bit earlier.

I don't have problems with teens. I notice for the most part they keep to themselves & maybe just talk alittle loud. I feel claustrophobic when the bus fills up with them but I feel that when the bus is full with anyone & I take a med before going out when I may take those buses so I don't feel it too much.

I definitely don't like being around kids. With the really young kids, when they see me from across the room or something, they'll stand there and stare at me like I'm the strangest thing they've ever seen, or walk up real close to me and stare which is even more awkward. Idk why. Maybe they see past my impassive exterior and see that there is something wrong inside, and are fascinated by that. Or maybe everyone does that, but the young kids are the only ones to express this openly. Kids are intelligent like that- their minds are so uncluttered by preconceptions that they perceive and behave in a totally different way. I think that's kind of neat. But I still don't like being around them. That level of openness scares me.

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i do not like small children in my vicinity because they are unpredictable and one has to look at an unnatural angle to see and avoid them. twice i have been in memorable situations concerning small children.

1. i was walking briskly in a supermarket once when i inadvertently kicked a small child across the floor as i collided with it. it was sitting on the ground and it was lucky that my foot hooked it under it's backside so it was not a hard impact, but nevertheless, the child slid across the shiny floor spinning whilst doing so. the mother was momentarily horrified but realized it was a mistake and that her child was not injured but merely startled. it was an uncomfortable scenario.

2. once in a pub i regularly ate dinner at, i was walking carefully along with a full schooner of beer in my hand, and i was watching it so i could be aware of how much it was sloshing, but i noticed too late that there were 2 small children walking toward me and i stopped abruptly which made the beer slosh completely forward out of the glass and over their heads. one of them was drenched in beer and the father (who i assume was drunk) made a scene about it.

they can scoot out of nowhere, and i feel ill at ease if i have to be cautious of collisions with them.

I was coming home from work and a woman had a shrieking toddler on the train and it made my ears sore. I wondered why didn't she cover her kid's mouth. I felt like I wanted to scream to shut that baby up. Then I get off the train and the shrieking follows me and the mother had gotten off at the same stop and this time the shrieking didn't hurt my ears because we were outside so the sound didn't bounce off walls. Luckily these shrieking kids are rare and I don't run into this often and she didn't do it most of the train ride home and then she started up again when we got close to my stop.

It must be demographic thing then. Here (małopolska in Poland) you rarely see anybody with more than one toddler unless they get twins. And if they have a sibling it is quite a few years older.
It wasn't like that over 10 years ago - I know a lot of "kids after kids" from that time. But for the last a few years it seems people didn't want to make babies due to bad economic situation or something.
It changed two years ago though: I didn't personally know any new baby for quite a few years and then some kind of baby boom in my area popped up - I know at least six 2 years old toddlers now and no babies or 3-9 year old kids. Each of the new ones is a single child. Except a pair of twins and a toddler girl with 20 year old half-brother.

Parents traveling are not so uncommon now but all I can see is 1-2 parents + 1 kid or a group: 2-4 parents + 2 kids.